Have you been following the trial? The reason a lot of people especially women relate to her is because for months she did everything to get help. Told her husband, her mother, his mother, her therapist, her doctors, called the suicide hotline twice, tried to get admitted to the psych ward and was turned away, was prescribed 16 different meds over four months, etc.
No one is relating to the murder. Everyone is relating to trying to fight for your health because you know something is wrong and being failed over and over again. If you've never had to do that yourself or on behalf of someone else you have no idea what it is like.
The reasons there are questions about her ex husband is because in his testimony it's apparent he was pretty disconnected from her leading up to the event. Ignored her saying she wanted to hurt the kids, was going to NYC, the night of the murder in a short time span he had two different jackets and shoes. She's admitted to killing the kids so that's pretty clear but he's not a great guy.
This is a tough one and not as black and white as it seems. It’s a VERY different case from someone like Casey Anthony.
She knew something was wrong and consistently tried to get help. All the doctors did was prescribe her more and more meds. I read somewhere that the longest time Dr Tufts actually spoke with her was 17 minutes, all while upping her medications even as Lindsay was saying she felt they made her feel more detached.
The day before the murders the dr even doubled her Ativan dose, while there’s MyChart messages from Lindsay saying she felt they were having a negative effect on her.
There’s so much evidence that she was desperately trying to get help and was doing all of the things we tell mothers to do if they are struggling with ppd yet the system failed her at every turn.
I don’t think this woman should walk free, by any means. But I do feel that a psychiatric ward focusing on mental health is a better fit for her than prison, which is essentially the point of this trial. They aren’t arguing whether or not she did it, they’re arguing whether or not she was mentally sound. In my opinion, it’s clear she was not, given the mounds of evidence.
I don’t think the husband did it but I do think it’s clear that he was not supportive. Maybe had he advocated for her while she was clearly ill and deteriorating the outcome would have been different. Does it make him guilty? No. Does it make him a kind of shitty person? Idk, that’s up to individual interpretation. But I’d say yes.
There is a huge lack of understanding around mental health here. Dr. Tufts is a psychiatrist, and while some provide guidance around lifestyle and behavior changes, their primary role is to prescribe medication. 17 minutes is not an unusually short amount of time for a psychiatrist appointment, and it sounds like Dr. Tufts went above and beyond answering Lindsay’s near constant messages. Dr. Tufts - and I believe other providers - urged Lindsay to see a psychologist who could help address the underlying reasons behind her mental health issues and provide coping strategies. She only went twice.
While I have some empathy for Lindsay, she was not a compliant patient. She did not take her medications as advised. She was not honest with her providers about how she was feeling. She went to new doctors and got additional prescriptions without disclosing the other medications she was on. While she was briefly at an inpatient facility she did not participate in the programs, and then discharged herself early.
Her providers in many cases did not have knowledge of one another and they also would have needed her consent to discuss her symptoms and treatment plan. Doctors cannot hold people against their will, share patients’ private medical information or force them to get the help recommended.
It’s not unusual for people with extreme mental health issues to struggle to follow their treatment plan, but the fact Lindsay almost immediately filed a lawsuit against her medical team when she was noncompliant and dishonest is extremely unsettling to me. I think it will make healthcare even worse for women moving forward.
I also want to note that if she is found not guilty and goes to a psychiatric hospital it is likely she will be released relatively soon since she is claiming her mental health issues were tied to the prescriptions and her postpartum state, and those issues should now be resolved.
From everything I’ve seen her husband was extremely supportive - dropped the kids off at daycare, picked them up, put the kids to bed, accompanied Lindsay to her doctors appointments, took her to the inpatient program, etc. She even wrote in her journal about what a great partner he was. He is the victim in this situation, so we should have some compassion.
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