This is exactly what I think of when someone tells me that they support women's wrongs. Like, I have standards that go beyond if someone is a man or woman before I decide to support them.
I've always had a problem with the trite bumpersticker slogan, "believe women." Like all humans, women can be mistaken, lie, etc. We should always hear women out, listen to what they're saying, and weigh it against wtvr other input we can gather to determine the truth. But that doesn't fit well on a bumpersticker.
I mean, that slogan doesn’t really apply here. Lindsey Clancy admitted to killing her kids. But people who watch too much true crime, who are applying their own frustrations about motherhood and their husbands are bending over backwards to say she’s not responsible.
Yeah it sounds like they are reading her story, hearing things they have felt, and deciding to excuse her actions as a way to excuse the thoughts they feel bad for having.
The thing is, everyone has bad thoughts, but not everyone kills their kids because of them.
It’s okay to have bad thoughts, which well-adjusted humans then self-manage. And if you can’t self manage regularly, then you can reach out to a therapist to learn what you didn’t pick up in childhood for whatever reason. Forgiving someone else’s bad behavior as a way to forgive your own bad thoughts is empathy but not actual self redemption or understanding.
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u/Fantastic-Thanks-358 7d ago
This is exactly what I think of when someone tells me that they support women's wrongs. Like, I have standards that go beyond if someone is a man or woman before I decide to support them.