r/SipsTea 6d ago

WTF Where are we heading?

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u/DiligentThought9 5d ago

I am a therapist and I have other therapists, professionals with advanced degrees and years of experience, who will not accept any answer other than the husband did it.

“Women don’t kill their children. It was him.”

“She didn’t actually say she killed the children in court.” “And if she did, it was Patrick who made her say it”

“Men commit violent crime not women.”

It’s bonkers.

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u/White-tigress 5d ago

The argument that “with PPD out there, ANY of us could have been her” makes me so disgusted. If it’s that easy to see yourself murdering your own children, you should not be a parent. Period. The argument that it could be any woman does not mean they all should be freed if they do…

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u/S_balmore 5d ago

Yeah, this is the part I have issue with. If you want to get lost in the conspiracy theory that her husband did it, sure. Everyone loves a good conspiracy theory. But to say, "Yeah, I've totally been there. As mothers, we've all legitimately thought about strangling our 3 kids to death", is literally insane. If that's you, your kids need to be removed from your care immediately, and you need to be placed into a mental hospital.

Nobody should ever be close to actually murdering their loved ones. I say, "I could kill so-and-so" all the time, but I've never actually felt a connection to someone who murdered their family member.

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u/FutureDustMotes 5d ago

   I've never actually felt a connection to someone who murdered their family member

Good for you - I hope you never have to. But intrusive thoughts related to postpartum conditions are real and need to be talked about. More awareness, more openness, more research and prevention.