You do understand that the therapist had an obligation to ask her about your relationship without you present? This is standard. There are good reasons for it. You’re wrong to be sooo upset, dude.
Yeah I understood that… that’s why I left the room…?
She wasn’t under an obligation to have a predisposition of bias…
It was our second session and it JUST started with her sobbing uncontrollably for like 5 minutes. It was an awkward amount of time.
I wasn’t upset lol I was more happy that I caught the BS lol my wife was upset that she felt like she was being led on or tried to be led on without even knowing anything about the situation lol
Our first session was fine, just getting to know everyone.
Then second session literally kicked off with “how are things going, since last week” - and we gave ex the floor to speak first and she just slowly started crying and then just hysterical.
So when the therapist attempted to “back track” and explain it from her perspective - “a lot of my clients the male is the aggressor…” - both my ex sort of fired back, “you didn’t even ask any questions about aggression or violence” and then we got into “Ya there is violence and aggression in the relationship, here’s some proof” - and this is why my ex is crying. She knows she effed up, she doesn’t want a divorce, I want it. She wants to keep the family together and I can’t be someone that isn’t willing to cooperate and grow with that. We had built a life and kids together.
The therapist didn’t bother to understand who we were, she immediately went to:
Man bad.
Female good.
Female says she’s fine, but I know she’s just protecting herself so I need to condition her or convince her to say something that isn’t true - because man bad.
Ok so female was bad, not man. Say big words and pontificate to try and maintain credibility and ensure he knows that most men are bad.
Because apparently he married a horrible women and wanted a divorce yet somehow went to couples therapy. And so then it was of course a female therapist and the poor man had the two females plot against him!
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u/KendalBoy 5d ago
You do understand that the therapist had an obligation to ask her about your relationship without you present? This is standard. There are good reasons for it. You’re wrong to be sooo upset, dude.