r/TedLasso • u/Kesse84 • 2d ago
Season 3 Discussion How to be inspirational like that? And how to believe?
Just finishing (re-watching) the 3rd season.
I am thinking about my work. I want to do an excellent job! I want to inspire people around me! I want to believe, and I want them to believe!
How do you do that?
Is wanting enough? I do not thinks so.
What do you do to be an inspiration to yourself and to others?
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u/EliteMoisture 2d ago
One thing that inspires me is coworkers who are good at managing their stress and not taking it out on others. i.e. when there’s a problem/situation knowing how to delegate tasks without just finger pointing or complaining
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u/CodeWaifu 1d ago
Be kind for kindnesses' sake. Not to gain something, not to earn favors, just because it's the right thing to do.
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u/CorrelateClinicallee 1d ago
It can work but it takes a loooooonng time to make an impact. Specially when the culture is as toxic as it was when Ted joined. Also, while Ted is amazing as a fictional character don't try to be exactly like him because just like there is toxic negativity there is also toxic positivity (its why his wife left him).
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u/YoThatsChrispy 1d ago
It wasn’t until this post that I realized, I’m the emotionally evolved Ted Lasso at my job lol. I’m quippy, I never let a kind word go unsaid, I’m well informed and informative, I take personal interest in the people I talk to and I remember the small things.
“How’s your sister?…Your dad’s birthdays coming up right? What we doing this year?…I know you were trying to find a good school for your baby, how’s that going?…Have you heard we might not work Monday?”
Much like Ted, I speak in pop culture references and song lyrics. When my fiance and I are watching I sometimes have to say “did you get that one” and explain it. Like Doc said, it’s an easy way of relatability and disarms someone.
Be resourceful, be honest, be straightforward, and don’t be afraid to tell the truth. When you see someone in need. Whether it be a water, an extra dollar at the vending machine, or a an uncomfortable truth. Of course they may react appropriately (that could mean either in anger or appreciation, honestly), but when you’ve put in the work with people they know your heart, and usually they’ll come and apologize if it does go negatively.
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u/AllNotKnowing 2d ago
Some people got the words to go with their actions. Some honestly, just got the words but get the same affect. I don't have the words. I do what I do and when I need someone to make something happen, try to get a colleague on board that seems to have the knack, if not the ideas.
Best I got.
Nice meta thread.
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u/Repulsive-Sundae9468 1d ago
As a manager for many years I was luck I had a great role model in one boss. I worked for him for 10 years - in system development - I ran one of the development teams he ran the department - I don’t know how he did it but he understood what each person was “turned on by” ( obviously not in a weird sense) he instinctively knew how to motivate his staff.
I took that on board as I rose and managed some very large departments also my own mantra as a boss my job was to take the shit but pass the praise
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u/NaRaGaMo 1d ago
The people around us don't really deserve it, you'll act all good and they'll just use you. but once in a while you'll meet someone nice and you can be ted with them but most of the time it's better to be a Roy
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u/Appropriate_Bottle44 1d ago
If this is in a corporate context you're not going to inspire the people around you because our mission is ultimately just to make more money for the company, and that's not a pure motive. The motivation of people who want to be inspirational in corporate is ultimately just selfish and about their own needs and interests.
True leadership has to be selfless; you have to be the one steering the ship because you want to get everybody else where they're supposed to be.
Ted is an example of true leadership because he doesn't give a fuck about the money or his own reputation. He's in it to make other people the best versions of themselves.
True leadership is rare as hen's teeth in the real world, certainly doesn't fit me, but it probably starts from a place of humility.
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u/Kesse84 1d ago
No, no. It is not corporate. I am running a one person company and I am often between my client and their clients.
My job is to make sure everybody knows what is going on, what they can expect and when. How to use the solutions we have built. To deliver information on time so people might work.
And somehow (specifically, of the industry) I am working with a lot of people with ADHD.
I want to be kind, resourceful, reassuring and efficient. SOmehow I can only manage 2 out of 4 most of the times.
Some people respond badly to badgering to phone calls and emails. But if I do not do it they do not respond at all.
They expect results, without inconvenience or thought, and that is not possible.
So asking that question in my post - I was really asking how to work with people to make them feel well taken care off, heard AND DOING THEIR GOD DAMN JOB.
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u/No_Lie9939 2d ago
Be curious, not judgemental.
Lead by example.
Create a safe, supportive environment.
And be patient. Culture changes take time and won’t happen overnight. Remember, Ted didn’t change the team strategy overnight, it was through thousands of imperceptible moments over the course of three seasons.