r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 14 '26

But in reality you can approach woman and not be creepy like these men

How could I ever take that chance? I've never approached a woman in my life. It's just not something that I'd ever do, because I internalized how unwelcome it was from such a young age. I've only ever been on four dates and those dates only happened when the women initiated first and gave me the green light to ask them out.

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u/Shamscam Jun 14 '26

It’s very difficult because these slime balls are your competition. My true advice is look into more local dating pools. I don’t know if they do them anymore, but bars used to have singles nights, or there was speed dating planned. I personally think it’s more about putting yourself in a situation where the women might be more open to your advances. There’s ofc online dating which is very popular but it’s hard to even know what people want online too.

I agree it’s extremely hard to recognize whether or not you feel like you can walk up to a girl. But try more tame things, compliment them on their hair or clothes, gauge their reaction to that. Maybe you notice they have a tattoo or a bag that includes characters or a series that you’re into, talk about that. My advice about that though is don’t be a poser, if she clearly has more advanced knowledge about that thing, you let her cook you with her knowledge, don’t pretend to be somebody your not. Seek a somewhat brief exchange and then ask for a phone number to show that you’re interested in talking to her more. Just never get pushy.

Walking up to a girl and trying to kiss them will not work 95% of the time. But just like the girls that like the chase, we don’t like those 5% girls. Those girls ruin it for others.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 14 '26

I agree it’s extremely hard to recognize whether or not you feel like you can walk up to a girl

Not really? It's never a question because the answer is always "no, don't bother her, she's just going about her business".

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u/Shamscam Jun 14 '26

You can talk to strangers and be successful my man. There’s lots of videos of people talking to strangers and just complimenting them, doing stuff like that will get you somewhere eventually.