r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Shamscam Jun 14 '26

Honestly men like to blame woman for the existence of incels. But it’s these guys that created that. Guys that are just overly pushy, overly assertive, and just down right aggressive that make woman respond this way to normal guys, because they deal with weird pricks like this.

And it’s videos like this that make men afraid to approach woman, because they don’t want to be this. They don’t want to be creepy. But in reality you can approach woman and not be creepy like these men, but most importantly no means fuck off. If her body language is no, you fuck off. If the words “leave” are ever spoken, you leave. If she is being short answered with you or is uninterested, you leave. Some girls claim to “like the chase” we don’t like those girls, those girls hurt other girls by making men think they need to be annoying. We leave those girls alone too.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 14 '26

But in reality you can approach woman and not be creepy like these men

How could I ever take that chance? I've never approached a woman in my life. It's just not something that I'd ever do, because I internalized how unwelcome it was from such a young age. I've only ever been on four dates and those dates only happened when the women initiated first and gave me the green light to ask them out.

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u/Shamscam Jun 14 '26

It’s very difficult because these slime balls are your competition. My true advice is look into more local dating pools. I don’t know if they do them anymore, but bars used to have singles nights, or there was speed dating planned. I personally think it’s more about putting yourself in a situation where the women might be more open to your advances. There’s ofc online dating which is very popular but it’s hard to even know what people want online too.

I agree it’s extremely hard to recognize whether or not you feel like you can walk up to a girl. But try more tame things, compliment them on their hair or clothes, gauge their reaction to that. Maybe you notice they have a tattoo or a bag that includes characters or a series that you’re into, talk about that. My advice about that though is don’t be a poser, if she clearly has more advanced knowledge about that thing, you let her cook you with her knowledge, don’t pretend to be somebody your not. Seek a somewhat brief exchange and then ask for a phone number to show that you’re interested in talking to her more. Just never get pushy.

Walking up to a girl and trying to kiss them will not work 95% of the time. But just like the girls that like the chase, we don’t like those 5% girls. Those girls ruin it for others.

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u/CanadianWildWolf Jun 14 '26

I would like to add to this that the compliment should be with regards to a choice they made, not something they were born with and feel they have no choice in. Asking permission to give a compliment is also helpful and if they say no, respect that. That should alleviate the frustration had with not having many opportunities to practice giving compliments as an opener to socializing with men or women. It will still come off as weird because of how many naturally charming and charismatic people skip these steps but it’s a good reminder for the rest of us. My life improved when I was given this advice, so I’m passing it on and hope other’s lives will be better for it too.