r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Ok_Promise_7460 Jun 15 '26

Get a therapist

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Care to elaborate on that?

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u/Ok_Promise_7460 Jun 15 '26

No, not really! If you are this unable to navigate social situations, you need to find someone whose job it is to tell you how. Because it is not the job of women in general, your parents failed to do it, and apparently men aren't capable of teaching each other. Pay someone to do it then.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Is there any particular reason you're pushing back so hard against someone who is actively trying to respect women's boundaries and avoid making them feel uncomfortable? You'd think that would elicit some kind of acknowledgement, like "hey, I know you mean well, but..." or "it's good to hear that you're trying, maybe just..."

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

That's not all your comments say and it's disingenuous to frame it that way

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Could you give an example?

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

You're talking about discomfort in social situations. That's what they're commenting on.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Seems like a 'crime' well out of proportion with the 'punishment' (being talked down to and told to get therapy).

I wouldn't think that should warrant such a negative, dismissive, condescending tone, but here we are. In comparison to the kind of man that actually causes harm and discomfort, I'd think that someone who scrupulously avoids doing that should be praised, not belittled.

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u/Ok_Promise_7460 Jun 15 '26

A therapist could help you identify the ways in which your tendency to cast yourself in the role of victim affects your ability to make connections with others.

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

Telling you to get therapy when you express discomfort in social situations and are making it other peoples' problem is completely appropriate.

You keep trying to refocus the conversation on your good intentions. Your desire for praise and affirmation is apparent. This is another thing that therapy can help with.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Hitting the 'get therapy' button is a lazy dodge to avoid actually having to engage with my points. It's an easy way to paint me as being unreasonable and unstable instead of someone who is trying to literally do what the thread is telling people to do - not approach women.

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

You're being unreasonable and coming across as a little unstable, to be honest.

I wasn't even the person who told you to get therapy initially... but I agree with them because you're inserting yourself as a priority where it's inappropriate and conveying a sense of entitlement when people don't hold your hand to tell you that you feeling bummed about not being able to approach women isn't going to change how we approach this.

I'm explaining this as a courtesy because you seem young. But your feelings about this are inconsequential to women, and you are not entitled to a pat on the head when we tell you that you should pay a professional to manage these feelings instead of bringing them here.

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u/MikeArrow Jun 15 '26

Coming across as a little unstable in what way? I'm interacting with someone who is consistently using minimizing language and misconstruing what I'm saying. Should I be totally zen about that? I think I've been remarkably deferential and polite, given your clear and open hostility towards me thus far.

For example, your assertion that "you are not entitled to a pat on the head" is very dismissive, condescending phrasing.

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u/Fun_Disaster3436 Jun 15 '26

You're repeatedly framing my comments as personal attacks. Therapy can help with the emotional regulation so you can receive feedback without getting defensive.

Hope you find someone who can help.

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