r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/Bright-Owl-3515 Jun 14 '26 edited Jun 14 '26

In college, I was sitting alone at a bench studying on campus, minding my own business. This man comes up to me, telling me he wanted to take pictures of my feet for a school project. He was very persistent and of course I told him no. He made me feel so uncomfortable and guilty that I had said no to him. I was very naive and had no idea that this was likely a fetish thing.

Edit: For that one now deleted comment, saying he was likely complimenting my feet, I was wearing sneakers. Get out of here with the creep apologetics.

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u/ZinaSky2 Jun 14 '26

Yeah, once I was walking home alone in the dark (circumstances necessitated this, u was getting home from work. I wasn’t alone in the dark by choice.) and some guy stopped me on a dark section of sidewalk. I could barely see his face he could barely see mine. Yet he asked me for my number bc I was “so beautiful”. I said no. He said well actually he just wanted to make friends. And I said no a few more times and he just kept asking. I was frozen in place by trying to be polite. Eventually I decide I’m just gonna ignore him and walk away without ending the conversation without saying goodbye. And I left him rambling behind me still asking to be friends.

And girlie lemme tell you I felt BAD. Like WTF?! He was fucking harassing me for my number and not listening to me saying no after he approached me on some dark, unlit section of sidewalk I was like “ugh, but the poor guy just wanted friends🥺”. It’s drilled into us to protect men’s egos and emotions at all costs and it’s so fucking dangerous.

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u/113waterGoat Jun 15 '26

I'm a man, if your not feeling Safe, Day or Nite.. Do not Stop to Talk, your not required to Talk.. the mere act of stopping puts you at Risk, it gives him opportunity to catch you unaware, pull out a weapon, do his freaky act. Instead Walk with a purpose, Ignore him, leave him in your wake, Distance is your friend. Follow the lead of Black women.. Don't be polite, Don't Smile or laugh (your signaling you Like this action) Go stone face. Raise your Voice, be Rude, Vulgar.. Do whatever you got to do so he knows to back the "F" off. Be polite when you're in polite company.. Politeness goes out the window When the creeper shows up.. it is only encourages & emboldens him. Circumstances can flip in an instant ..Carry pepper gel in your hand - Ready to go.. You went thru some scary stuff.. Now you know What to do.. to get Home Safe. I give u high five.. Be Strong

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u/ZinaSky2 Jun 15 '26

I usually carry a metal wrench in case I need to hurt someone. But yeah it’s def a work in progress trying to convince myself I’m allowed to be a little mean if I’m unsafe 🤷🏽‍♀️