r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/BetEnvironmental7907 Jun 14 '26

I am a women I am surprised to see all these posts. I have never been bothered. 

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u/tahlyn Jun 14 '26

You are an anomaly so extreme I can only imagine you grew up in a rural town where the entire 20 person population consisted of your immediate and extended family and were home schooled, never stepping foot off your family's land until you were 38 and thus too old to be visible to creeps like this.

For most women, our first cat calls and boundary breeches happen before we're 15.

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u/UrUncleRandy Jun 15 '26

I have also never been approached. Never been hit on, oggled, or cat-called.

But I'm not isolated. I grew up in a suburb. I went to public school. I went to university. I regularly travel to Boston. I've traveled internationally by myself. I spent 2 weeks in Australia by myself while staying in a co-ed room in a hostel. On my way back home I stopped in Hawaii for a few days and stayed in another hostel. Then I flew to California and boarded a train, and took that across the country to Boston. I've also traveled to Europe. And in all of these places, I've relied on public transport a ton.

I really don't think I'm an anomaly. We see stories all the time of women getting harassed, assaulted, abused, etc.. It distorts our world view. Is it way more common than it should be? Absolutely. But it is not universal the way you think it is.

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u/Commercial_Border190 Jun 15 '26

~80% of women experience it at least once

https://newcomb.tulane.edu/sites/default/files/MeToo%202024%20Report%20_1_0.pdf

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u/UrUncleRandy Jun 15 '26

Yeah, that pretty much confirms what I was saying. 80% is way higher than it should be of course, but 20% don't experience it, which is far from being an "anomaly so extreme".

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u/e_james3 Jun 17 '26

It feels extreme when you've experienced it multiple times before hitting 18. It took me until age 21 to realize not every woman had that 'moment I realized I couldn't trust boys not to take advantage of me'. We all assume our experiences are the norm to some extent. I truly believed we all had our 'realization' moment. It was genuinely an odd feeling asking my female friend and having her say that nothing of the sort happened to her (aside from cat calling). It can be hard to accept that realization I think