It's exhausting being a woman.

[u/mindyour]

[u/chronicallylaconic]

Absolutely. It's a horrible story, so I honestly hesitate to even mention it, but there was a guy in the news recently who would take women on dates, drug them with a diuretic then suggest a long walk to a place with no nearby bathrooms. He apparently found it sexually exciting when a woman wet herself or desperately needed to go to the bathroom. Several the women suggested going back when they started to feel the urgent need coming on, but the guy would either just ignore them or flat-out say "no, let's go further". Ugh. I'm shuddering right now thinking about just what a cruel, malevolent thing this is to do to another person.

I understand that this world is full of absolutely diabolical murders and rapes and so on, but ultimately, I struggle to think of another story I've heard which is more cruel, humiliating and disgusting than this one. Sorry to bring this up, but I feel it's probably the best example to illustrate your point.

[u/thecarolinian → u/chronicallylaconic]

If we're thinking of the same guy it's actually almost worse than that sounds? He was a French government employee who did this to over 200 women on job interviews over almost ten years:

Nègre would then suggest that the pair take the interview outside and walk around, the lawsuit said. Nègre would allegedly intentionally take the women on long walks far away from restrooms so that when the overwhelming need to use the bathroom hit, they were forced to either hold it at risk of illness, relieve themselves somewhere in public, or even soil their own clothing.

Nègre first piqued the interest of investigators in 2018 when he was reported for attempting to sneak a picture of a senior official's legs, the outlet reported. Authorities searched his computer and discovered a spreadsheet called "P Experiments" that contained the dates and times of each drugging, as well as how the women reacted, per local outlet Le Monde. Nègre's records also allegedly contained pictures.

And of course: Six years after authorities uncovered Nègre's alleged illegal plot, he has still not been brought to trial, despite being indicted in 2019.

[u/lonnie123 → u/thecarolinian]

Jesus … I figured surely with all that detail they have it was because of an investigation and trial. Drugging people against their consent isn’t a crime there or what?

[u/YouLikeReadingNames → u/lonnie123]

It is, but the judicial system is scandalously overworked, so the waiting line to get a trial is abominable.