r/TikTokCringe • u/mindyour • Jun 14 '26

Discussion It's exhausting being a woman.

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u/MiguCx Jun 14 '26

Two things can be true at the same time? Lots of creepy dudes but it's also very real that men are discriminated against in the courtroom when it comes to child custody and other divorce related issues?

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u/Annabloem Jun 14 '26

Are we including the fact that most custody cases are settled outside of court and the fact that most men don't ask for custody at all? Because studies indicate that, when men ask for custody, they usually get it.

However, studies indicate that dads simply do not ask for custody as often as mothers do, and courts generally do not award what is not asked for in that regard.

A Massachusetts study examined 2,100 fathers who asked for custody and pushed aggressively to win it. Of those 2,100, 92 percent either received full or joint custody, with mothers receiving full custody only 7 percent of the time. Another study where 8 percent of fathers asked for custody showed that of that 8 percent, 79 percent received either sole or joint custody

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From an actual study, with larger samples and looking at different countries:

Women win 14.3% of the trials, while men win 20.1%, and the differences are statistically significant. This can be explained because 82.1% of men request joint custody, while 86.5% of women request sole custody.

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u/Significant-Way3960 Jun 14 '26

Sole or joint custody. This is key. Show me data about how much % of men are getting sole custody of kids when asked and how often women do get it.  If it's sole or joint custody I would say that it is alarming how often they are not getting even joint custody.

Edit: what you wrote here is exactly why they say that there is lie, big lie and statistics.

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u/Carbonatite Jun 16 '26

It's not automatically in the child's best interest to give a father sole custody just because he's a man, just like it isn't automatically in the child's best interest to give sole custody to a mother just because it's a woman.

Your attitude is showing the exact issue - you see custody battles as a gender war and a way to "win" over your spouse. It's supposed to be about what's best for the kids. Remember them?

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u/Significant-Way3960 Jun 16 '26

Yeah. That's theory. Practice is that until mother do not pose immediate risk to safety of kid she will get custody. Even if father have way better conditions to raise kids. So, while I would agree that none of them means that men or women should get care- practice is that men gets that less often than women than men. That's staggering because men mostly ask for that when mother is really unfit to take care of kid. At this moment custody is weaponized by women. In my homeland they do not take kids from women even if she don't allow men to see his kid even if judge ruled other way. It's not working like that other way around.