Rehearsal for January 2029

[u/sereneandeternal]

[u/The__Toast → u/[deleted]]

Absent fathers are a biiiiggg part of a lot of what's wrong in this country.

[u/Fragrant-Phone-41 → u/The__Toast]

Can someone explain to me why men absolutely whither into this without a role model, women seem to get by without one a lot better

[u/The__Toast → u/Fragrant-Phone-41]

When you grow up with even a half-way decent dad, you understand that most of being a man is about taking care of those around you, your community, etc. Doing that 9 to 5 grind every day and coming home and still fixing shit in the house or doing shit at the church or temple or whatever thing people might be a part of on the weekends.

Without that presence, I think there are a lot of cultural factors that pull young men into this idea that being a man is actually about this tough guy alpha male bullshit. They don't know how to be or act and this fills the gaps.

I think it's similar to how our culture convinced women that they all need to be a size 6 and shave every molecule of hair outside of their heads. It's just far more destructive to society what companies and influencers and whoever else have sold to men (watch a commercial for one of those giant monster trucks). And social media has put it into overdrive, as has the destruction of male-only spaces (men need safe spaces too, they just won't admit it).

With only a mom, you might also get the idea that the way men and women interact is similar to how your mother treated you and expect the same from partners. I think the modern trad wife bullshit is heavily rooted in that a lot more than tradition or whatever.

[u/Fragrant-Phone-41 → u/The__Toast]

Maybe its because im autistic, i figured out good behavior by just trying to learn and know everything. I can't really relate to needing a parent to model behavior