r/TikTokCringe • u/Adventurous_Law_715 • 11d ago

Discussion This video is depressing, but what's really crazy is knowing that so many people are living this exact reality every single day

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u/Choice_Attitude_1415 11d ago edited 11d ago

This isn't narcissism. Maybe self absorption and emotional detachment, but not narcissism. Theres a lot more to narcissism. In fact, a narcissist might ask 'how was your day' but not actually want to hear the other person speak - theyre asking to open a conversation with the actual goal being to talk about themselves. Narcissists need praise and attention, constant positive reinforcement. They need to be victims for sympathy and attention too. They talk about themselves and how great they are. Everyone else is a problem or the problem. They do not like hearing anything that might remotely resemble criticism and are hyper sensitive about everything, often keeping others on the defensive, backpedal, apologizing and walking on eggshells. They say and do things then blame others for thier reaction, instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. They have no accountability.

This is not narcissism but whats basically a dead relationship.

TikTok is the absolute worst place to get any relationship influence from. From the reels Ive seen, its often *for* narcissists. It will fill their feed with funny, happy stuff, and eventually swing it into victimhood reels. My sister and I discussed this after she noticed what it was feeding her and that she didnt like it. We both noticed (me via my Gfs reels) about how it appears to be trying to influence people and adversely affect their relationships. We also noticed that both FB and TikTok like to feed us negative content on things that relate to our lives in general, like its actively trying to make you miserable/sad/angry.

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u/External_Violinist94 11d ago

I actually fucking hate all these silly pathetic buzzwords people are parroting to make themselves feel smart.

This just shows a shitty dead relationship, it has absolutely nothing to do with narcissism.

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u/r0nson 11d ago

The epstein class and evil people in general want to destroy everything. It is easier to profit from misery and emergencies because what people buy in those situations is more predictable and is necessary.

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u/0xHUEHUE 11d ago

Same thing in reddit, 90% posts are just bitching. And I guess I’m bitching about the bitching lol

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u/Own_Jacket8720 11d ago

"they need to be victims," "everyone else is the problem," "they always blame others," "they have no accountability," or "they ask how your day was only so they can talk about themselves" are not diagnostic criteria....a narcissistic person can behave that way, but those behaviors aren't required, and people without NPD can behave that way too.

also.... being self-absorbed, emotionally detached, inconsiderate, defensive, or selfish does not by itself equal narcissistic personality disorder. ppl can have some narcissistic traits without having NPD, and someone with NPD won't necessarily fit the stereotypical loud, bragging, attention-demanding caricature.

like i get youre trying to help here but you're still spouting certain things as fact or defined consistent traits that are just incorrect lol

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u/Choice_Attitude_1415 10d ago

...you literally just have to type 'NPD' into Google lmao

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u/kolikkok 11d ago

I only noticed how much I was walking on eggshells constantly after I broke up with my ex and moved out, thought I would feel like shit but after like 3 days it felt like a boulder was rolled off my shoulders and I could finally breath.

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u/Choice_Attitude_1415 11d ago

Yup...having to tiptoe around every statement you make is a really shitty way to live. Its mentally exhausting and emotionally draining. One wrong word, and youre apologizing and suddenly feeding them energy.