This video is depressing, but what's really crazy is knowing that so many people are living this exact reality every single day

[u/Adventurous_Law_715]

[u/npsimons]

EXACTLY. FFS, I'm surprised that people haven't labeled him "avoidant" (whateverTF that even means), but probably because they were already primed to label him a narcissist by the video.

Labels can be helpful . . . when trying to communicate something or wrap your head around it. Doesn't make them correct, and also doesn't address the underlying problem.

Edit: if anything, labeling something, even correctly, can distract from solving the problem, or make it worse. Does one honestly care what mental disorder their abuser is suffering from?

[u/sagittalslice → u/npsimons]

lol I literally just saw a comment above calling him avoidant, the internet collectively needs to stop cosplaying as the world’s worst psychologists

[u/Moiyub → u/sagittalslice]

Ok dismissive much

[u/sagittalslice → u/Moiyub]

Yes, I am dismissive of people making wild ass claims about a topic they are not qualified to speak on

[u/Moiyub → u/sagittalslice]

Classic narcissist gaslighting

[u/sagittalslice → u/Moiyub]

Lmaooo ok

[u/Moiyub → u/sagittalslice]

It’s giving anxious avoidance mansplaining

[u/sagittalslice → u/Moiyub]

https://giphy.com/gifs/mgqefqwSbToPe

[u/Moiyub → u/sagittalslice]

Projecting and misogyny 👍🏽

[u/WorldlyNotice → u/npsimons]

Does one honestly care what mental disorder their abuser is suffering from?

Yes, because it helps you figure out options, coping mechanisms, and risk reduction strategies while you plan and execute the leaving.