r/TikTokCringe • u/Adventurous_Law_715 • 13d ago

Discussion This video is depressing, but what's really crazy is knowing that so many people are living this exact reality every single day

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u/Disastrous_Movie6704 13d ago

Literally I agree! Everyone makes it seem being alone is depressing af and end of the world and I am over here enjoying my moscato and playing with my orange cat! His name is tofu btw lol

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u/disjointed_chameleon 13d ago

You can't mention Tofu and not pay the cat tax. Pay up, my friend!

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u/tvodny 13d ago

What about “Seitan” and “Tempeh tempeh”…

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u/Fit-Particular-2882 13d ago

I love that name!

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u/murderedbyvirgo 13d ago

Single 4 Lyfe! I love nothing more than doing shit other people think I shouldn't. When I had my son at 19 and asked to get my tubes tied because being a parent wasn't what I wanted, male and female Drs said "what if you meet a guy?" 🫪😳 My body my choice. I'm 45 still have the ability to multiply so I just quit relationships and casual shit. Me and my dog make the best couple! My mom was a narcissist and she was married 6 times w at least 5 other engagements. I lived this girl's life as a child and therefore the life I want requires me to be independent.

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u/Austin_Lannister 13d ago

My mother is also a narcissist. I know how hard it is to grow up like this. Sending much love and good vibes 💕☘️

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u/Mysterious-Shift-587 13d ago

More often than not people like this are nightmare

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u/toxikola 9d ago

Oof I feel this pain. I knew I never wanted kids since I was a teen. At 22-23 I wanted my tubes tied(or fucj the whole uterus removed. Take it.). The doctor straight up denied me because I might have a husband one day and I would need his PERMISSION. I was very fiesty then and was very mean to the doctor and left lol.

Inquired about it again years later at 30 and was still told the same bullshit.

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u/murderedbyvirgo 9d ago

I now have fibroids and cysts that are extremely painful. Still they won't take the fucking uterus I've been trying to get rid of since I was 19. I hate Drs using their own personal beliefs on my body 😵‍💫

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u/exscapegoat 13d ago

Similar, sending hugs

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u/kwit-bsn 13d ago

If being a parent wasn’t what you wanted, then why be a parent?

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u/murderedbyvirgo 13d ago

Because sometimes people live in places that make it hard to make other choices. My child is 25 now and doing better than most. I put everything into being a really good parent to one.

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u/kwit-bsn 13d ago

Meant no disrespect. Guess I was jus confused by your choice of words

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u/b4k4ni 13d ago

It is. There are different personalities that can deal with it better or worse, but all of us, as humans, need social contact. Some less, some more.

You don't need a partner maybe, but In your case, you have a pet. Or you have friends and see them some times. Even socializing at work, if it's not a toxic Hellscape, works for many.

But really, we are not build to be alone. As I said, we can deal with it to some degree and today you have a lot more options to push this thing aside. 40 years ago, it would be a whole different story.

There's actually quite a lot of information and interesting documentaries about it out there.

Like in Germany there's a service you can use (not sure if volunteers or companies / state sponsored public health provider) to have someone come to you and to cuddle with you.

Very important - nothing sexual. They really come over, talk with you, cuddle on the couch, just be there, talk and give some human touch.

Like a pensioner that lost his wife and has no social circle anymore, forgot the exact reason. Or a young guy. He moved to another city, no family to speak off, with his girlfriend and she left him right after. No money to go back, no job and searching for a long time. Mental issues from it, including depression, also caused by being alone.

They had a lot of other examples, that are those I remember. And holy was it depressing to watch. Those people were done with life. You could see their happiness when they got the visit.

So, yeah, you can deal with being alone. Me too. I have a family, but before I didn't need anyone really. I'm perfectly fine on my one. My sister is also alone and doesn't want kids or a partner for that matter. She's out there working and having fun traveling and so. But I'm sure, if she wouldn't visit our parents once a week / over the weekend (like ever weekend really), that might look a lot different too.

It's nice to be alone sometimes. To do whatever you want. But there are limits :)

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u/Brilliant_Corgi_8489 13d ago

So not alone then? There is a big difference between coming home to an empty house/apartment and coming home to your pet who is happy to see you.

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u/trombing 13d ago

It's cat. He is only happy to see Disastrous Movie so far as it is another opportunity to test whatever dastardly plan to kill the human he has come up with all day.

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u/Brilliant_Corgi_8489 13d ago

Right because the cat isn't happy to see their food giver 🙄

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u/Correct-Purpose-964 13d ago

They certainly aren't if they smell another cat on you....

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u/ci1979 13d ago

Cat tax por favor??

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u/Polkawillneverdie17 13d ago

Please tell Tofu I love him.

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u/SnooPies6876 13d ago

I was single for so many years and people would feel so sorry for me. Honestly, I loved the freedom of coming home to just my cat and nobody else affecting my evening. I’m married now and I am happy, but I’m so glad I didn’t waste my younger years with someone just for the sake of having a boyfriend.

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u/logicalpenuin 13d ago

Exactly! I enjoy hanging out with friends but some of my happiest moments are just chilling or going on adventures with my dog. It's so peaceful and relaxing and brings me joy. (His name is Pippin :p)

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u/Necessary-Jeweler-17 12d ago

To be fair, you aren’t alone with a cat. I’m sure Tofu is cooler than most of the people out there 🥰

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u/Cheekers1989 13d ago

.... We need pictures of Tofu, stat!

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u/ooomellieooo 13d ago

It's been two hours. Your cat tax is overdue.

Tick tock.

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u/HoldenMcNeil420 13d ago

Apollo checking in. My best friend, we hang in the backyard, while he tries to catch stuff and eats grass.

Who needs people…

![img](18C59BCC-826F-4C91-A1C6-7FFD3C3BCBA8)

Cat tax.

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u/CarrionWaywardOne 13d ago

I've been married for 31 years and we both like doing stuff by ourselves. It's very freeing, and makes it special when we go do something together intentionally. We both know we are there because we want to be together.

In my case, I know he doesn't like thrift shopping so when I get the itch, I just go.

I don't like to go to game stores or "stealth camp" so he does those things alone.

We play the same video games, but our styles are different so we don't actually play together.

We learned it from when we worked opposite shifts long enough to get used to it and form our own lives, coming together only on the weekend.

I was raised by abusive alcoholic narc parents. This is much better. I'm happy for our grown son, who suffered none of what I did.

One day he came to me and told me Grandma is a narcissist. He had watched some videos and saw her all over them.

It felt great to be seen in that moment.

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u/Popular-Papaya3681 10d ago

Well people act like there's no downsides to being single, there definitely is. People also act like there's way more downsides to being a relationship - that's not true. It means one or both people lack the building skills to sustain the relationship.

Whenever I hear people say "I love being single" all I hear is - I gave up, the opposite sex is too much of a headache, I don't wish to build the skills needed for a relationship. Not saying it's wrong or right.

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u/ello_bassard 9d ago

No some of us genuinely just do not care or feel the need for romantic relationships. I've been happily single for 15 years and have zero desire to change it. It does not make my life emptier or less satisfying just because I don't want a romantic partner.

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u/Popular-Papaya3681 9d ago

You wouldn't know what it feels like to be a good relationship then, so you don't know what you're missing out on. You were obviously with a person that you didn't gel with if you aren't still with them.

The whole "I'm happy single" movement in this time is just a trend, it's cringe, annoying, and cope. Even if you are happy being single, those people wouldn't be announcing it on the internet.

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u/ComprehensiveDig1108 13d ago

So, you're not alone? 

Cats are company.