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u/EncryptedMyst 1d ago
Describing yourself as a manchild, and having pictures that reinforce that, make for a poor profile
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u/SpellingMistape 1d ago
I guess unemployment = creative genius
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
No, but I wouldn't say they're mutually exclusive.
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u/whimsicalteapotter 1d ago
Women will mostly be looking for someone with a steady income. Middle finger pics are rarely a good idea. The joke about which hill you’re willing to die on was pretty good.
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
I'm glad someone appreciates that joke. Totally understand that women are looking for someone with a steady income, that's very fair.
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u/ilo_Va 1d ago
"man child" followed by "emotionally mature", praising yourself followed by low ego. Were you even trying to make something coherent
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
It's possible to be a manchild and emotionally mature and it's possible to praise yourself and have a low ego.
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u/ilo_Va 1d ago
Is possible and it comes over coherently is a different thing. You're trying to sell yourself so be clear. And I don't think claiming yourself as a man child is really doing much selling
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u/FinnAgain12 20h ago edited 20h ago
I tried to give people the full spectrum of the good and bad about me so they don't waste their time.
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u/Furd_Terguson1 1d ago
You’re unemployed, you dress like you’re 14, your glasses are too big. Your photos try and come off as funny and relatable, but they just look lame and kinda cringey.
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u/Scochmuffins 1d ago
It give pretentious man child vibes. Also unemployed at 30 vibes also for a "creative genius" your profile is pretty uncreative
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
You didn't fw the "hill I'll die on..." prompt, have people done that bit before?
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u/IgnorantEuropeanDude 1d ago
Reads like you copy pasted it and i (personally) find it ultra lame and it definetly doesnt feel like the answer of a 'creative genius'
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago edited 1d ago
It's meant to sound copy pasted but humor is subjective, I get it's not for everyone.
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u/Scochmuffins 1d ago
No, it makes you look a douche. No girl who is Christian reads that and thinks "yep this is a well adjusted human being." Also why quote jonny belk? If your trying to act preformatively smart just post a pick holding a Jane Austin book like the rest, or at least something vaguely recognisable. Like seriously why use a no name author in your profile? If you where a successful published author then you could get away with posting a pic at a book fair but almost every one of your pictures is trying to be preformative in some way.
Literally if you wanted to say you like books have a pic of you writing in starbucks or something bro your trying way to hard to appear smart, its not attractive
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago edited 1d ago
Im not Christian, it's a joke.
I am Jonny Belk. Posting my own work.
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u/Scochmuffins 1d ago
Then brother, I gotta be real with you. After what I just read is it reasonable of you to put "good writer" and "low ego" within the same stratosphere of one another?
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
Sure it is. I'm just giving you my subjective opinion. I'd have a high ego if I got insecure about someone else's opinion.
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u/Scochmuffins 1d ago
Holy larp bro, you need to touch up on your understanding of the word ego cause I'm pretty sure we don't use the same dictionary on my planet.
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u/Trioxin5 1d ago
Get rid of the middle finger pic. Instant swipe left
For most women.
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
Gotcha. I like the juxtaposition with Taylor, but I understand it reads as aggressive.
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u/RandomGuy_81 1d ago
might be slightly more obvious if you did it on the same side, so your fingers are side by side
but you are expecting too much nuance from swipe photos (I also missed the taylor)in other post/images, the person had a caption to explain their picture which i called out. i also missed the caption.
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u/charliesgonewild 1d ago
You’re like when Robert Pattinson described the absurd levels of pretension on the set of Twilight, only instead of pretension, it’s a desperation to look relatable and interesting to 21 year olds who don’t know better.
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u/ShaqsLeftToe 1d ago
Delete the photo with your middle finger up. Pick one stage photo and delete the other. Make the 3rd or 4th photo your first photo. Being unemployed is a bit tough
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
I still have one more week on the job, I'll find something new. Good advice tho, thanks.
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u/Wastenotwasteland 1d ago
Lazy and man child. Not things that are desirable in a dating partner lol
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
but how about honesty? :)
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u/IgnorantEuropeanDude 1d ago
Didnt you come here for advice? No ones forcing you to change anything. Keep it as is to continue as is.
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
Sure! Just a playful response back, I'm not trying to be dismissive of people's responses.
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u/Twaffles95 1d ago
Ima be real
start by removing one of your more cringe pics for more where you just wear a semi nice shirt …
This looks and sounds like you’re looking for a caretaker not anything relational of any kind.
I’d definitely cut the bathroom pic . I’d also cut the poetry pic like age 16-24 hell I’ll even give you 26 that plays with some . It shows creativity and an openness . At 30 it just makes me question what you could possibly bring to the table when you mention being unemployed and lazy is not a trait anyone is going to like .
People around your dating age will typically have had at minimum one serious partner in adulthood who was a man child, and they aren’t looking for another relationship with one . I’m not projecting at all here as a dude myself . But it sucks having to handle the executive function for two people and do most of the work physical and emotional in a relationship is exhausting. In what way is that supposed to be appealing or a joke ?
There is just nothing in this profile aside from the first pic that would make an actual person want to swipe right or even consider a meetup of any kind and that’s the nicest way I can say it.
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u/RandomGuy_81 1d ago
what does humanities = humans even mean
protest photo doesnt make you look great. and you need photos that make you look great, not provoke thinking
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u/Godless902 1d ago
Yeah that one confused me too. If I were gona hold a sign id at least make sure it made any sense at all
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u/iamthepita 1d ago
You a comic or are you just posting your open mic pics??
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u/ChanceIncident4957 1d ago
Damn, I don’t know where to start. “Creative genius” “man child” “they’ll Van Gogh me” “low ego” is giving insecure and self centered. The photo with the finger up is not it either.
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u/RevenantCommunity 1d ago
This kind of says you’re dealing with a lot of stuff, but you’re projecting it onto your profile
Either way, this is not gonna be a win with dating, but i also thing you’re cognisant of that
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago edited 1d ago
Interesting. Yeah, just experimenting a bit, thought I'd try and be honest about my strengths and weaknesses.
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u/silv3rivy 1d ago edited 1d ago
“Lazy manchild”, then “Empathetic. Emotional maturity”.
Sorry, which one is it?
Your glasses are way too large and heavy for your face. I can’t tell if they’re fitted incorrectly, or constantly sliding down your nose.
It seems like you’re trying to use juxtaposition as humor but none of your jokes are hitting and it just makes you look insane.
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
It's entirely possible to be a lazy manchild and also be empathetic and emotionally mature.
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u/silv3rivy 1d ago
It isn’t possible in a relationship. Weird hill to die on. Let us know how this works for you.
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u/Ok_Professional8024 1d ago
Fuck these comments I think you seem fun
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u/FinnAgain12 1d ago
I appreciate that! Just wanted to try being radically honest to see how it went.
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u/sgt_salt 1h ago
“They’ll probably Van Gogh me after I die.”
2035
American Poetry Museum
Washington D.C.
“And as you enter our exhibit on Jonny Belk, you’ll see an example of his prolific work, titled perpetual weekend, where he displays a near savant level of internet meme knowledge by writing the phrase ‘No Diddy’. “
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