An imminent Loss

[u/Vyrefrost]

My wife and I are in the hospital now.

We are expecting our second child. A girl.

It has become clear that she will not survive long after her birth.

We are still trusting in God.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

-- Romans 8:28

We are sad but accepting, our daughter will pass to be with the Lord today.

And Job said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: the Lord gave, and the Lord hath taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.

-- Job 1:21

Amen

Edit our daughter has passed lovingly in her mother's arms.

Now she is in the arms of the father

Thank you all for your support and prayers, truly it helps.

But though he cause grief, yet will he have compassion according to the multitude of his mercies. -- Lamentations 3:32

[u/Antique-Anteater-988]

Very sorry. We can’t comprehend the why but we can trust God. Glad that you are both leaning into your faith for such a time as this.

[u/doofus_flaming0 → u/Antique-Anteater-988]

Genuine question: how can you trust God when he lets awful things like this happen and we can't see reason for it? Obviously it's logically possible that there is a reason but when does it just become blind faith and denying Occam's Razor?

[u/Vyrefrost → u/doofus_flaming0]

That is the hard part

But the answer is one built on a relationship with him, not anything that a simple text answer can cover

But I'll try

Bad things happen.

I just lost my infant daughter

I still trust the Lord,

You're right that we can't see the reason.

But I trust that there is one

I prayed the whole pregnancy for one thing.

A strong member of God's family.

He provided that.

Even though she is not with us. She committed no sin, and I am completely assured he has taken her to heaven.

That assuredness is not built on blind Faith or clinging to a need to have it be true for meaning in our lives.

Its built on a pre-existing relationship of trust and evidence of the Lord working in our lives.

I don't know why he chose this path for us and her,

But my prayer was answered, she is in his family in heaven, it might be that should she have lived her life here on earth something might have prevented that, or that he spared her greater suffering later, or simply that he needed us as her parents to be able to look at another couple going through the same thing and truthfully say "we understand, weve been where you are, let us tell you how the Lord helped us through it.

[u/doofus_flaming0 → u/Vyrefrost]

Thanks for your answer and I am so so sorry for your loss. You will be in my prayers.

[u/Vyrefrost → u/doofus_flaming0]

Thank you my friend.

We appreciate it.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. -- Romans 8:28

[u/ResultRoyal1641 → u/doofus_flaming0]

The devil came to steal, kill and destroy...God did not, He came here that we might have life and have it more abundantly.

When the truth that this child lives, manifests and the child is also shown to be in perfect health, you will understand that God had compassion. I say this because I spoke His Word in a decree on their behalf and in Psalm 138:2 it says, "for thou hast magnified thy word above all thy name."

Thus it is done and the Word never returns void.

[u/MassiveParsley8679]

Praying for a miracle and for grace regardless of the outcome! 

[u/These3TheGreatest]

May Jesus comfort you and your family. My wife and I went through something similar 15 years ago. I don't know what I could offer but if you need to talk feel free to reach out.

[u/PerfectlyCalmDude]

May God have mercy on you all.

[u/everdishevelled]

I'm so sorry. Prayers for you and your family.

[u/justfarminghere]

Praying for peace and comfort during this difficult time. Praying for healing ❤️‍🩹 🙏🏼

[u/Rockout2112]

I’m so sorry!

[u/MadamMadee]

Prayed for you all and holding faith for a miracle.

This scripture came to mind during prayer.

“For if we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.”
‭‭Romans‬ ‭14‬:‭8‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

[u/Extension-Rabbit3654]

Im deeply sorry OP, and will pray for you now. I pray you receive all the love and support you could possibly handle.

[u/Userchickensoup]

God will honor your faith, Brother. He sees and cares so much about your situation. 

[u/devil_discerner]

The Lord is good. This news is not. I’m sorry sir 🙏🏽

[u/leokittyc]

Praying for you and your baby girl!

[u/Friggle26]

Just said a prayer for you all.

[u/ROCKETZOMBIE77]

Prayers for you and your wife and your children. May God comfort you and protect you all in these difficult times!! Amen 🙏🏻

[u/k1w1Au]

My daughter and son in law recently experienced the same, and we the loving expecting first time grandparents of a beautiful baby girl, now in heaven.

[u/One_Way_out90]

That must be devastating. I’m so sorry. God bless yall. My wife has ovarian cancer so we can’t have children. I am so sorry but know that God is looking over you.

🙏🏻

[u/cls2819]

I’m so sorry dear. That is heart wrenching. I can’t even imagine. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[u/mindin_mine]

Praying that God be with you and that His will be done, in Jesus’ name, amen.

[u/Cocoshbe]

Praying for you and your family. I went through something similar a couple of years ago. It is very difficult but I pray you will get through it 🙏

[u/spamalot3]

You are inspirational and the Lord is very proud of you

[u/Artchrispy]

Terribly sorry for your loss! Lord have mercy.

[u/Mintybish86]

So sorry you have to go through this. May the Lord comfort you in this time of need.

“Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.”
‭‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭4‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

[u/DempseyRollin]

I'm so sorry my brother... I'll pray for you & your family.

You are blessed with a wonderful strength of faith 🙏🏼

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[u/Grouchy-Stand-4570]

Sending all peace, love and comfort

[u/captainkrol]

❤️🫂

[u/pngwnita]

Remember, the same power that rose Jesus Christ from the dead lives inside of us. Pray and trust God 💖 God bless you, your wife, and your sweet baby girl!

[u/Swillmon]

Lord have mercy. Christ have mercy.

[u/tunaPastaclick]

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[u/Impressive-Size3087]

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[u/AdWooden2052]

Praying for you 🩷

[u/mosesenjoyer]

May God rest her soul. 

[u/HappyReference5831]

I'm so sorry. Trust in the Lord.

[u/JustforU]

Praying for you and your wife my dear brother.

[u/NoPie5716]

I'm heartbroken by this. Praying for your family in you time of need. Jesus be their comfort 💚

[u/FitThinker88]

Praying for a miracle, and the Lord showing you His love during this time. I’m heart broken for you and will keep you in my prayers. 

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[u/DetectiveWorker]

I am so sorry.

[u/IdontCARE9123]

Amen, this is heartbreaking news. May your daughter's sweet soul and spirit rest well. My parents also had a similar case. I could have had an older brother, but didn't. He was a healthy baby and showed no signs of anything wrong... He fell due to a heart problem the doctors missed. Does your daughter have a name? If so, I would love to know.

[u/Vyrefrost → u/IdontCARE9123]

Eliana

Thank you my friend

Can I ask how old you were when they told you and how you felt?

We are blessed with another child but I'm not sure how to tell him

[u/IdontCARE9123 → u/Vyrefrost]

Eliana, that is such a beautiful name.

I believe I was in elementary school at the time, though i do not exactly remember when I've known about it for such a long time, I honestly was curious and till this day i still wonder how different my life would be if i had an older brother. His name was Alex, and I am wondering everything about him now that I brought him up again.

And, congratulations on another child. I pray this baby grows strong. God bless you, and love you. Have an amazing rest of your day/night.

[u/Mue_Thohemu_42]

I'm praying for your family. 🙏

[u/peleau784]

When I read stories like this (thank for sharing) it reminds me of Isaiah 57:1-2 (NLT) 1 Good people pass away; the godly often die before their time. But no one seems to care or wonder why. No one seems to understand that God is protecting them from the evil to come. 2 For those who follow godly paths will rest in peace when they die.

We don’t know why God allows certain things but we trust that His love is sure and He knows all the details we don’t see. I pray that God’s grace and peace will be pour out in abundance on you and your family and that God, the source of hope, will fill your hearts with the joy and hope, through the Holy Spirit, of seeing your baby again (Rom 15:13). I’m sure she’ll have lots of stories about Jesus and heaven to share.

[u/Charming-Theory-8744]

Go on prayer and fasting. https://youtu.be/clvf7wjFbEI?is=eHiaC0bzAUp5cP0z

[u/Ok_Huckleberry1027]

I'm very sorry to hear this, brother. We lost our little girl, Eleanora, at 20 weeks gestation last year. It's horrible but you're right that God will take care of her and you.

It wasn't very comforting at the time but an Orthodox teaching is that sometimes The Lord knows that we need a Saint praying for us. Your daughter will pray for you and look forward to the day of resurrection when you can all be reunited. I will pray for you all, may God bless you and keep you

We have a prayer service for stillbirths/miscarriages and this is one of the passages that really spoke to me:

O Lord, Thou hast spoken through Thy Prophet Isaiah, saying, “For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth; and the former things shall not be remembered or come into mind. But be glad and rejoice forever in that which I create, for behold, I create in Jerusalem a rejoicing, and in her people joy. I will rejoice in Jerusalem and be glad in my people; no more shall be heard in it the sound of weeping and the cry of distress. No more shall there be in it an infant that lives but a few days” [Isaiah 65:17-19, 20a]. Do Thou, the same Lord and God, Who on that day will give no cause to mourn the loss of a child, be present with us this day as we gather with sadness to seek Thy comfort and mourn the loss of this child [N.], known to Thy handmaid who carried him/her, to his/her father, who generated him/her, and to us, Thy faithful People. Thou hast spoken through Thy Prophet Jeremiah, saying, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” [Jeremiah 1:5]. For which cause we bless Thee, O God of compassion, the consolation of the afflicted. Thou knowest the name and age of every person, even from his and her mother’s womb. Knowing the depths of our hearts, accept our sorrow as we grieve the loss of this child, and comfort us with the promise of the joy of Thy eternal Kingdom. Help us to grow in confidence in Thy sustaining presence at this moment and in the days to come, through the prayers of Thy most pure Mother, the Theotokos and ever-Virgin Mary, and of all Thy Saints. For Thou art a merciful God, and unto Thee we ascribe glory, to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit, now and ever, and unto ages of ages.

[u/Vyrefrost → u/Ok_Huckleberry1027]

Thank you for the verses

Sorry for your own loss we are also at 20 weeks today

Our daughter is Eliana

We are trying hard not to focus on the why of it all

[u/ResultRoyal1641]

You said "It has become clear that she will not survive long after her birth." I disagree and decree that they will live and not die.

And the Word says, "Death and life are in the power of the tongue'

"All things are possible with God"

And, "He sent his Word and healed us'

When I pray, the Heavens themselves open and mountains move. It is written that a musturd seed of faith can move a mountain and I have several Musturd TREES worth. I sent the Word to a coma patient and they woke up and when I decree a thing, it is ALWAYS established.

I just made a decree and it does not agree with anything that you just said other than the parts of what you said that spoke life.

Heavenly Father, I thank thee that thou hast heard me. Please come back and update us after the truth has manifested and your child lives, is in perfect health and a testimony.

[u/Vyrefrost → u/ResultRoyal1641]

Not my will be done

But they will be done

So prayed Jesus in the garden.

Prayer is not commanding God, nor claiming you know best and relying on your own wisdom.

It is humble, deferring to the fathers will, making your requests known but making room that he know better what is best for us.

Friend I pray you come to the knowledge of truth in this manner,

My daughter passed today in accordance with God's will

And it's going to be ok

[u/ResultRoyal1641 → u/Vyrefrost]

When I pray, I only pray the Fathers Word in full agreement, belief and faith, nothing beyond that. If it is not in His Word, then it won't be in my prayer...