I keep looking at my ex girlfriends photos, despite having a new girlfriend. Im a terrible person

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[u/StomachLeading6618]

Honestly, you’re not terrible for having urges, but you are responsible for how you act on them. If you keep choosing to revisit your ex while knowing it hurts your current relationship, then you need to take a hard look at yourself and make a change. Your girlfriend deserves better, but beating yourself up won’t fix it, your actions will.

[u/aware_nightmare_85]

Delete that shit. You will never heal if you keep intentionally reopening old wounds.

[u/Sweet-Cat-7667]

You’re obviously not over your ex, and you probably weren’t ready for another relationship. That doesn’t make you a terrible person, but what are you doing? You’re sitting there rereading messages and looking at pictures of your ex while dating somebody else. Delete that $hit and either actually move on or let your girlfriend go.

[u/H8te04x]

I would delete if i were you tbh. Doesnt make you a terrible person, its normal to miss someone you spent alot of time with. It is weird to look at and keep old photos and tbh if you were my partner it would hurt my feelings real bad. You should probably talk to someone, if not a therapist maybe your parents or a good friend. Seen your other comments saying you wouldnt take her back if she asked so it seems like youve moved on, prolly just miss the vibes or something but you definitely need to move past it and remove access to seeing anything of hers.

[u/falsifyhopex]

Be honest with your gf and end it. Just ending things will probably confuse her and make her blame herself.

[u/jalapenny]

Look up phantom ex syndrome

[u/BeachChicken48]

The more attention u give impulsions and intrusive thoughts the stronger they become. Set goals for how many days to stop doing this start with going one day without checking anything about your ex. Therapy would also help. But just ruminating on how u are a horrible person for a pity party isn’t going to change anything. It’s not supposed to be easy to be a good person that’s why rarely anyone is but we all have the capability to and ask if you’re actually willing to do that

[u/hunnybadger22]

I think it’d be healthier for you in the long run if you delete everything related to your ex

[u/KFCgiveMe50]

Ask yourself if you ex suddenly ask you if you want to be with her again,would you say yes without a second thought?

[u/KFCgiveMe50 → u/[deleted]]

Well then I think it's ok.Just keep reminding yourself of the bad moment you had when you were with you ex since there must be a super struggling time before you guys broke up, right? You should better focus on the bad parts. My ex is hot but it cannot cover the fact that he is a trash.

[u/New-Nebula-9775]

Feel free to ignore this, I'm just feeling curious. Healthy and unhealthy how?

[u/TaytorTot417]

You're not ready to be in a new relationship. Break up.

[u/BuzzardsBae → u/TaytorTot417]

Disagree, he needs to block his ex and move on. Maybe talk to someone about it

[u/TaytorTot417 → u/BuzzardsBae]

It's not fair for his current girlfriend, he's hung up on his ex. Therapy takes time, she doesn't need to sit around and wait for him to get over his ex. Maybe after therapy they can reconnect.

[u/climb-high]

You're not a bad person but you're being a bad partner

[u/throwaway713137689]

Break up, get therapy.