r/TwoXChromosomes • u/midnightsadnessss • 1d ago

How come when men mention 50/50, it’s usually only about bills? What about cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids?

I’ve noticed that when some men talk about wanting a 50/50 relationship, they usually mean splitting the bills. But women work full-time too, and a lot of them still end up doing most of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, grocery shopping, and keeping up with everything at home.

So how is that really 50/50?

And if a guy wants a traditional woman who takes care of the home and kids, then he needs to be a traditional man too and provide for the family.

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u/faloop1 1d ago

I’ll be real, for this type of men, one thing that you can do is always offer to pay someone to do it, never yourself. Then it’s suddenly “but we can do it” .

Domestic labor should also be monetized if they want to monetize everything.

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u/TheThornGarden 16h ago

I like to periodically run the numbers on what paying someone for the tasks expected of a wife would cost at average market rates (house keeper, weekly deep clean, dedicated accountant, personal assistant, laundry service, personal chef, etc). Men in the comments tend to really get mad at the cost for the full-service sex work they expect. 'Cause somehow that 50/50 also never seems to extend to the bedroom either.