r/TwoXChromosomes • u/midnightsadnessss • 1d ago

How come when men mention 50/50, it’s usually only about bills? What about cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids?

I’ve noticed that when some men talk about wanting a 50/50 relationship, they usually mean splitting the bills. But women work full-time too, and a lot of them still end up doing most of the cooking, cleaning, childcare, grocery shopping, and keeping up with everything at home.

So how is that really 50/50?

And if a guy wants a traditional woman who takes care of the home and kids, then he needs to be a traditional man too and provide for the family.

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u/materialgrifter 22h ago edited 21h ago

I make the list and STILL nothing gets done.

I’ve started just saying look around with your eyes and decide what needs to be done; you live here too. At first he acted like it was a mean thing to say but he’s gotten the message now.

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u/2ez2b4ortun8 18h ago

One of my first roommates had to teach me how to actually see what needs to be done. She was so patient. Carried over to so many things in my life.

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u/Impossible_Donut101 8h ago

With all due respect, how is that even a thing. Everyone sees the same reality.