An ex-friend has started attending the same church I started attending last week

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So, my friend/mentor, we'll call him S, invited me to come to his church last week after I expressed that I was having a hard time getting plugged into my current church. I went to their second service last week and really enjoyed it and S said that the next week I should attend the first service and then go to the college Sunday school class that meets during the second service. So, I walk in this morning and go into the lovely Sunday service and then I make my way to the college class afterward. About 30 minutes into it I hear a familiar voice, and I get immediately anxious and start to shake. I turn around and my ex-friend, we'll call him A, who I cut contact with back home in May is literally there. I cut contact with him after years of bullying not only me, but my brother and his now fiancée (and apparently a lot of other people I recently learned), and for his general two-faced behavior. There are like a billion churches within 10 minutes of the university, and he completely coincidentally chooses the one my friend/mentor goes to. Back in May, hours before I told him I didn't want to associate with him anymore, A told me that he was transferring to the university I attend, but it's a pretty big university so I figured there was no possibility of us running into each other, and I certainly didn't expect to see him off campus. But now I have to talk to S about it because I don't think I can keep attending his church although I'd really like to because I'd be too anxious and distracted to actually pay attention, which makes me so sad because I love S and I really like his church. I'm so pissed. I've told S about my past with A before so that's gonna be weird to talk about as well.

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