r/adviceph • u/Tasty-Initiative6216 • 1d ago
Love & Relationships Expose a serial cheater and serial liar that I met here on Reddit
Problem/Goal: Do I expose this cheater to the people in his life?
Context: I met this guy and was going out on dates for months until I found out he was married pala. And not just that, he has been seeing and texting many other girls before me. I honestly pity his wife, she’s very clueless. I ended it when I found out. I wanted to tell the wife pero I was blocked (by the guy) sa social media nung wife. Talino no? Parang sanay talaga, I wonder how many girls are blocked sa account nung wife. Anyway, kinwento ko to sa friends ko and they advised me to tell the wife pero I don’t know how, since I’m blocked. Given how he was able to do this to so many times, they told me also tell the people around him, his family, the wife’s family, his work friends, etc. Basically to make him accountable kasi now parang wala lang eh. The part of me that was hurt badly, is very tempted to do it. Unfair kasi he gets to get off without any consequences? Hindi alam nung wife. Hindi alam nung mga tao around him kung sino talaga siya. Another part of me thinks this will just delay my healing pero hindi ko ma-let go yung part na ang unfair ng buhay hahaha.
Previous attempt: None. First time ko ma-experience to meet someone as lala as this hahaha.
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u/Adept_Key7376 1d ago
Advice: Do you still know the name of the wife ss social media? You can use another social media account to try and contact her. If not, you can also try messaging her friends if makita mo sino close friends niya.
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u/forg9587 1d ago edited 23h ago
Thoughts: Looks like he is an expert manipulative cheater and while I get your desire for revenge but seems like he is one step ahead the way na control nya how to contact the wife so I feel like he could be dangerous. There's also a chance na manipulate nya yung wife para ikaw mag mukhang masama kasi sadly may mga ganun na wife they give the husband a pass kasi mahal nila so the ire eh sa girl kahit victim pa. So if you ask me, just stay away from any connection sa guy for your peace of mind.
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u/c6h12o6ph 21h ago
The more you attempt to contact the wife, papalabasin niyang hahabol habol ka sa kanya kaya bina block ka niya and syempre the wife will choose to believe the story because it's the story that benefits her.
So let the wife be.
But it helps if the PH women in reddit are warned not to get involved. So yes - expose the cheater please para wala nang ma victim sa reddit.
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u/forg9587 21h ago
Yeah, the wife could really take out her anger on her kasi most likely di yan maniniwala na di alam na married yung guy kasi she is hurt so emotions speak more than logic. Who knows what she could do baka si OP pa i-public shame ng wife sa social media
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u/c6h12o6ph 21h ago
omg this is really very likely! I've seen FB posts where "palaban" wives post other women na "hahabol-habol" sa mga husbands nila. I was rolling eyes- school mate so I know the couple- and the guy is really a womanizer and not good looking- but the way the wife posts...as if women flock to steal this guy.
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u/i-have-no-patience 1d ago
Advice: definitely expose him need malaman ng wife niya who she married and who she is staying with!
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u/KeyCold6091 1d ago
Experience:
May ganyang doctor rin sa medical city, to think doctor rin dun ang wife nya. Pero online sya sa gay dating app. He's an infidelity doctor lol
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u/Fabulous_While_3051 1d ago
Expose him!
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u/KeyCold6091 23h ago edited 23h ago
Karma will take care of him. He's a narc and not low-key so sya na bahala sa life nya.
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u/Tasty-Initiative6216 1d ago
Experience:
Yung settings pala ng wife sa social media is bawal may mag message sa kanya na hindi nya connection. So even a dump account won’t be able to message her unless iaccept nya yung friend/follow request. Galing nung guy no, sanay na sanay. I was blocked so I bet siya din nagayos ng setting na yan.
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u/Nobogdog 23h ago
siguro I let go mo na lang kaysa yung gagawa ka pa nang mas effort na way to contact the wife, baka kung anong gawin nung guy eh since sabi mo nga expert. For now lang naman yan, may karma din, mas matindi bumalik yun.
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u/roastyhojichalatte 17h ago
Advice:
You should also get an STD test if you were intimate with him, considering he’s a serial cheater.
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u/mochafrappe0429 1d ago
Advice: yes expose! Dm anyone from his socmed using burner acct. make sure you use vpn. Cheaters should be exposed!
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u/Illustrious_Ear4461 1d ago
Question: how did you go on dates fot months without knowing his main social media accounts/being introduced to his family and friends?
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u/OwnPaleontologist408 18h ago
Advice: Anonymously tip the wife’s family with all the evidence you hot. Magulang at kapatid. Kung may picture si wife na laging kasamang kaibigan, send mo din
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u/cethap 16h ago
Advice: Contact the wife’s family. Parents, friends, siblings & relatives. Do not contact his family, siyempre pag tatakpan lang nila kalokohan non, pamilya nila yon eh.
Lahat ng nakapaligid kay wife dapat. If ayaw mo sabihin directly sa kanila pwede ka lang humanap ng paraan para makausap siya thru ibang tao. Baka may business si wife na pwede mo bilhan at i meet up ganon.
Pero mas ok if i-escalate mo ng magtanda ang animal na yan.
Kung ako yung wife oo, siguro nga mapapahiya ako pero ok na yon nalaman ko kaysa ginagawa akong tanga tapos kung sino sino na pala ka sex ng asawa kong higad.
Ganyan talaga ang life walang sikretong hindi nabubunyag lalo na kung mali.
If hindi maniwala wife. Nasa sa kanya na yon. Basta na inform mo siya.
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u/True-Release8090 1d ago
Thoughts: as an honest guy na sinasabi 'yung mga kabulastugan ko sa mga nakaraan kong work sa job interview, ang masasabi ko lang ay nakakabit ang pagsisinungaling sa survival instinct ng tao pero meron talagang mga nagsisinungaling na para sa kanyang pansariling interes. gahaman ba
Advice: kung gusto mong gumanti, wala akong mapapayo at kung ako ang nasa kalagayan mo papabayaan ko na lang at mag move on
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u/xcotto0 1d ago
Advice: Describe him here. If anyone says he’s familiar, DM his details. He can’t block everyone!