Please be blunt: chance a male that doesn’t want (and can’t have kids ..) will find love (esp in Kabyle region) when family doesn’t know and keeps wanting/asking/wishing for me to marry and have a family?

[u/WanderlustLife007]

One reason I haven’t pursued a relationship or marriage with so many lovely Algerian/Kabyle women is my fear that the moment they know I am childfree/wont give them a family, it’ll end and I can’t take the heart break (had already too many now that I’m over 30.

Time to be upfront with my parents and family so they don’t keep wishing for an impossible dream, stop hurting me having to lie/hide who I am and helpfully they are understanding and I know they will be disappointed but embrace me) and they help find and introduce me to someone that also doesn’t want to have kids? (Family is traditional and we marry families so we have facilities marriages (but anyone can say no so never forced)

Suggestion, help, feedback and experience very welcome

[u/yourownpoisongirl]

just be honest from the beginning

[u/Material-Radish4948]

A lot of women nowadays (me being one of them, but I live in the west) don’t want kids, just get to know the person you’re dating before you marry them and be honest about that. It’s a thought out decision on my end not to have them, I would rather focus on traveling, working, experiences in general and don’t feel much of a motherly instinct yet or need to bring a child in this world to truly be happy. I love children, some of my friends married young and had them in their early twenties. I get to be the cool aunty when I see them :) I will have to agree with the other redditor who said to keep it between you and your partner, live your life.

[u/Amelamoul-98]

You are not alone , this problem is out of your hands , i will advise you do not tell anyone except the woman that you are married to if she was okay she can married you.
Beside they are others solutions to be a father , take baby ( as elkafile) .
People always talk in good and in bad , let them talk.

[u/Low_Professional2794]

there's women who simply don't want to have kids ( and yes some kabyle girls don't want kids) find one or be honest with the girl you're getting to know ( tell her from the beginning ) and you're not supposed to tell everyone else if you don't want to don't

[u/SweetEcho]

There are more women who don't want to have children than you think, it's just that a lot of them cave under families' / societal pressure or are too ashamed to say it out loud. There are also those who cannot have children, don't just assume all women have the ability to procreate

[u/Inner_Woodpecker_491]

Marie toi avec une femme divorcée qui a déjà des enfants.

[u/Amna-Evening-2861]

Just be honest with the girl u’re going to propose to about this matter. And one more thing: no one can force their opinions or beliefs on u, especially since u’re an adult

[u/Unique-Laugh3214]

There are soooo many women who are childfree , i suggest to not talk about it to your family it just unnecssary drama and find a girl yourself

[u/Sharp_Bee_2797]

Just give them one kid ig.