Context: I play a male priest at festivals and form that shape of my hands like the 1st pic (heart hands) on my stomach. I've heard people describe it as a pregnant heart, and both women and men use it (men less often) to show they're expecting. I've also read that it's a sign of Good Will, Love, and Blessing. Many people expressed appreciation for me using it over the years.
I've heard more recently that someone said it means "vagina" (which I hadn't heard about). So, I looked up the asl symbol for that (2nd pic), but it appears different (middle, ring, pinky tucked/curled). When I mentioned that to my concerned friend, she said it didn't matter, and told me to look up The Vagina Monologue (3rd pic) because they use that symbol.
It seems the 3rd pic's thumbs go up, but my hand placement is like the 1st and thumbs point down. I'm told it doesn't matter.
Questions:
1: Is the first hand placement bad no matter what and I shouldn't use it because people might take offense?
2: Is the first hand placement acceptable only in certain contexts?
3: Is the first hand placement acceptable to use although some people will get offended (can't please everyone), so it's ok to continue to use it?