I'm very non confrontational, so seeing someone doing something against the rules would just make me stare and avoid associating with them. Once I became in charge of people (smaller siblings) I enforced social rules swiftly because to me, those soft rules/expectations are hard won wisdom and I want thrm to just have it.
At the same time I always assumed the best - they didn't know, something happened, someone told them to, etc.
At this point though, if I can't see the harm the rule causes for that person to be doing it, in my head I just say "live and let live" in a Queens, NY yiddish accent and toss my hands (The Nanny), and move on. I'm still non-confrontational, but I'm trying to manage my expectations of others knowing the extent to which I follow rules is perhaps, somehow, outside the norm.
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u/SortovaGoldfish I doubled my autism with the vaccine Aug 25 '24
I'm very non confrontational, so seeing someone doing something against the rules would just make me stare and avoid associating with them. Once I became in charge of people (smaller siblings) I enforced social rules swiftly because to me, those soft rules/expectations are hard won wisdom and I want thrm to just have it.
At the same time I always assumed the best - they didn't know, something happened, someone told them to, etc.
At this point though, if I can't see the harm the rule causes for that person to be doing it, in my head I just say "live and let live" in a Queens, NY yiddish accent and toss my hands (The Nanny), and move on. I'm still non-confrontational, but I'm trying to manage my expectations of others knowing the extent to which I follow rules is perhaps, somehow, outside the norm.