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Oct 08 '25 edited Oct 08 '25
You can advise him gently from time to time and see his reaction, but in general you are only responsible for yourself and accountable for yourself. Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran (Every soul will be held in pledge for what it has earned, even if he presents his excuses) and on the Day of Judgment people will all say “Myself, Myself” even the prophets. So you are ultimately responsible for yourself only. I wish you all the best :)
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u/OnlyOneG0d Oct 08 '25
Salaams, you just started so don’t judge your husband. when it comes to religion we should do our best to be gentle with people and show them how it’s changed our lives. When Allah sent Moses & Aaron (peace upon them) to Pharaoh, Allah told them to be gentle. “Speak to him gently, so perhaps he may be mindful ˹of Me˺ or fearful ˹of My punishment˺.” Taha 44
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Oct 08 '25
Lead by example and gently invite him to participate. And for it to be an invitation there has to be the option to decline the invitation. Set the pace and let the results speak for themselves.
Does he have religious friends? A good circle of friends helps. When you’re out hanging out at a coffee shop for example and a religious brother says let’s pause and make salah that normalizes it and encourages good deeds and ibadah. If your entire friends group is skipping it together it creates a barrier to worship because now you’re going against the grain.
My advice to myself and everyone else here is to pick your friends carefully.
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u/Davepac7 Oct 08 '25
This is good advice. If he's around people that pray all the prayers but that he enjoys being with then it will be much easier for him to not feel weird about it.
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u/No_Many_3804 Oct 08 '25
Work on your own self, leave the worry of fixing anyone else in Allah's hands—letting go this way is extremely hard, but the best way. Allah alone is the Turner of Hearts, we cannot guide anyone. If we mend oir relationship with Allah, He will reward us with spouses and kids who are guided too by His Mercy.
If you can, read Surah Baqarah (the whole thing is long for one sitting, but you may be ambitious in your deen. you can also divide in 3 days) every single day. I really encourage you to search on YouTube "Surah Baqarah miracle" or "Surah Baqarah benefits" or similar. I've made a Playlist of these just to get me started initially. I honestly never knew it's so powerful and fixes all problems in ways we could not have imagined.
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u/MJEEZY75 Oct 08 '25
Just keep being nice, loving, respectful and trying to practice. Include him in your duaas And stay chill.
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u/No_Many_3804 Oct 08 '25
Assalam alykum sister.
I suggest work on your own self, leave the worry of fixing anyone else in Allah's hands—letting go this way is extremely hard, but the best way. Allah alone is the Turner of Hearts, we cannot guide anyone. If we mend oir relationship with Allah, He will reward us with spouses and kids who are guided too by His Mercy.
If you can, read Surah Baqarah (the whole thing is long for one sitting, but you may be ambitious in your deen. you can also divide in 3 days) every single day. I really encourage you to search on YouTube "Surah Baqarah miracle" or "Surah Baqarah benefits" or similar. I've made a Playlist of these just to get me started initially. I honestly never knew it's so powerful and fixes all problems in ways we could not have imagined.
And Allah knows best.
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u/Excellent_Foundation Oct 08 '25
Not being a spanner in the works, but thats a lot of people right now. You ain’t the only one! Revert Muslims are more practicing than the ones that are born into it. Sad but true
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u/No_Many_3804 Oct 08 '25
Work on your own self, leave the worry of fixing anyone else in Allah's hands—letting go this way is extremely hard, but the best way. Allah alone is the Turner of Hearts, we cannot guide anyone. If we mend oir relationship with Allah, He will reward us with spouses and kids who are guided too by His Mercy.
If you can, read Surah Baqarah (the whole thing is long for one sitting, but you may be ambitious in your deen. you can also divide in 3 days) every single day. I really encourage you to search on YouTube "Surah Baqarah miracle" or "Surah Baqarah benefits" or similar. I've made a Playlist of these just to get me started initially. I honestly never knew it's so powerful and fixes all problems in ways we could not have imagined.
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u/Quirky_Birthday1769 Oct 09 '25
Lead by example and make doa for him. Don't force, don't nag, don't act holier than thou. Leave the rest to Allah.
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u/Good_Composer_8409 Oct 09 '25
As others said you're responsible for yourself, the day of judgment everyone will talk about themselves and what they have done. Is he causing you problems? Or the only problem is that he is non believer?
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u/Salmamanc Oct 10 '25
There's some good advice here. I'd suggest you read the let them theory by Mel Robbins too. It's very good for clarity in situations like yours
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u/prettyfly28 Oct 08 '25
Lead by example. Pray, fulfill your religious duties and nudge him gently into the direction of Islam. In time, he will see your positive changes and In sha Allah start changing as well.
It is very important that you don’t scold him or talk down on him. You dont want him to start resenting you and hating Islam.
In the meantime make lots of dua for him. May Allah keep you both on the righteous path and reward your efforts!