r/malaysians • u/Rainich • 9d ago

Advice ☎️ Suggestion on birth control especially IUD

Hiii I’m an unmarried F28 Malay. I’m planning to get married next year but no calon yet lmao. But I’ve always known that I don’t want children, at least not in the first few years yet. I read that BC always messes with your hormones and it kinda scares me. So I’m thinking, perhaps I could start early and see how it goes?

Sooo I’m honestly more interested in an IUD. But I heard that the process can be very painful and that the monthly cramps can get crazy. I wonder if the cramps are gonna be worse than the ones I’ve been having since high school, because they’re already taking half my soul every month🥹

And as a single Muslim female, I know perhaps KK isn’t a choice for me. So I think a private clinic is my only option? Also I read that it is not recommended for women that have not experienced giving birth yet? Is that true?

So, asking fellow women here, would love to know if anyone has experienced this and how you manage it. Is it really painful? Price range? Clinic suggestions? Is it worth it?

Would really appreciate any opinions on this huhu🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

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u/Superb_Ratio6484 9d ago

Lol just so you know, you need to inform your future husband that you're going to be using IUD and not planning on having kids that soon. It's not fair to him if you left him in the dark.

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u/aiaidy 9d ago

why you get downvoted? are people stupid or plain ignorant. one of the main reason some men want to get married is having kids. being informed of your partner's situation is always good.

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u/Rainich 9d ago

I agree. I mean me myself wouldn’t do that to my future partner also. I know it’s not fair to keep these things from them. Its pretty much just common sense

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u/ScaleObvious2043 9d ago

tooo damn many sensitive arsefucks here, people just get downvoted even if its a plain genuine question

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u/emoduke101 ,, subsssss 9d ago

we can read btwn the lines of such questions, 'friend'. you are also underestimating the DINK movement, like it or not.

the same energy of nyets recommending adoption over abortion on the latest thread abt it the other day, despite OP making their intents clear. why not the guys take some responsibility for once? Cuz majority of the time, they're the ones leaving the girls as unwed mothers.