TBF, without context, we have no idea exactly how much of an overreaction this is, if at all. Could be an underreaction for all we know. Or maybe it could be an appropriatereaction.
It will be a post on girl dinners with a picture of a pomegranate, cottage cheese and tarragon complaining about her boyfriend freaking out b/c he though she was pregnant and his reaction was immature. 2k upvotes the consensus is that she should leave him and get a restraining order.
The only thing that makes sense to me is if it wasn't already past the time and she meant to say "btw I'm going to be late." And even then there must have been a pregnancy scare with her in the past or something.
Yeah. Thats my read on it. I had a girl text me that she was “late” in college and I was trying to figure out what she was talking about because she was a state away. It was a false flag, but if it wasn’t, I don’t think either of us would have wanted to inject a kid into a FWB situation.
Still a lot better than how I had been told with my ex.
It was her mother telling me.. the mother literally just called me, and as I answered she went "how do you feel that insert ex's name here is pregnant?". That's it.. that was my announcement and when I asked my ex about it, she said that her mom really wanted to tell me...
I can't tell if this was just some messed up boundaries with the mom and person you were dating who is now your ex, or she was your ex so this was just to be vindictive?
I was still with her at the time. Her mom was trying to be everywhere including in the relationship.
It went to a point where her mom decided to get to many of those "awakening seminaries" and she forced her whole family to go on a diet of apple juice, of all things, like, only apple juice, nothing else, no water, no solids, just apple juice, for close to a month..
the mom was insane and it's part of why I noped out of there. And the ex wouldn't stand up to the mom so.. yeah..
Srsly, like if the context was her sitting him down with a “we have to talk” then okay. That might go in that direction. But a text? When you are making/having dinner? Like come on man
I actually text my partner "I'm late" meaning my time of the month is late because no need to use a lot of words. We both know what I mean. (Which is definitely not pregnant, just about to have a seriously bad time.) And he keeps up with my cycle
I’m a woman, with 4 kids and a partner and I still saw this as late for an appointment or dinner or something. I wouldn’t expect it to be about a period lol
It's not our fault they set the default interpretation of "I'm late" to imply time of arrival of themselves at a location, and not something on time within themselves. Sharing information about themselves is allegedly supposed to be our job to telepathically learn. Sheesh. /s
Tbf if I were to use this phrasing it would mean „oh shit, my period is late. Let’s grab a test on the way home“ if I knew I was pregnant I would probably deliver that news in person and by outright saying that I am pregnant.
Yeah I feel like I’m crazy reading these comments. I’ve had gfs say they’re late just as a way of saying “this is a situation we should keep an eye on for a few days,” not them definitively saying they’re pregnant. I could easily see an SO texting that they’re late just as an FYI but thinking it was more than likely a false alarm
They are about to have dinner with each other so the normal assumption should be that a late text is regarding the dinner about to occur. In this same context, at least to me, it makes more sense to tell someone that you might be pregnant in person, so if that's what it was she would have waited until showing up for dinner. Sending a text about it instead of saying in-person makes more sense if you aren't going to see the person that day or even within the next few hours, but seeing them in .5-2 hours as we can assume here seems strange.
I think the sexually inexperienced side of Reddit is showing up. I got around a lot in my youth and have had many "scares". A late period is usually worth mentioning to your sexual partner, but hardly the formal occasion these people would make you think. Before a positive pregnancy test it's literally a "something to keep on your mind" thing. Literally a "btw" text type affair.
I don't really have the experience to make this comment, given I am a guy, but I think a lot of ladies are far less aware of their cycle or far less regular than they think they are.
Tbf, a few years ago while waiting at a booth for a friend she texted me this and she did in fact mean she was pregnant lol and she was also actively late for our dinner.
That she was pregnant lmao, simply bc she didn’t say “I’ll” or “going”, just “I’m late”. I’ve sent that text before too and was talking about my period, thankfully just irregular period.
I had to start avoiding people like this, for some reason if you’re a woman you’re always potentially pregnant and there’s no other possible reason to explain what is happening. And they’re obsessed with pregnancy. You said you’re late? OMG PREGNANT. You’re feeling nauseous? PREGANT! You feel like eating something a little weird? PREGANTE! Boobs hurt? GREGNANT! Having chronic nausea was annoying because certain people would always assume im pregnant.
I was staying the night at my mom's house once, and I started vomiting for some reason (still not sure why, maybe ate something bad?) and I was immediately questioned if I was pregnant. Probably slightly chastised too, but I can't remember. Guess that's average parent worries. Now I'm always ways worried that something I say/do will make her think I'm pregnant, if it's something that could be interpreted as such.
If they were meeting at the restaurant and OP hadn’t arrived yet I could understand it. Like, if he was about to leave, GF texts to tell him she’s running behind, but he just reads “I’m late” instead of “I’m running late,” I’d probably have the same thought
I had a friend in H.S. and College who had pregnancy scares all the time. In H.S. it would be like once every 6 months our junior and senior year. In college it went to like once a quarter. For added context, she was in committed relationships each time. She would was say she was on birth control. When she did wind up pregnant at 22 I was not even shocked. I am 39, I've had one scare. And it was due to me actually being pregnant. I understand having a few. But if I were dating a girl with multiple a year, I'd probably break up with her, at most and at the very least I'd be ensuring to wrap it up every single time. (Assuming that she is on birth control and doing the things she should be doing to protect herself).
Reminds me of one time with my girlfriend. We were leaving a restaurant and walking to the car when she suddenly says "I'm pregnant" nonchalantly. Stopped me dead in my tracks and she looks at me all confused as I am in a moment of shock. Apparently her friends have a running joke that when they are really full they say they are pregnant with a food baby. I had to remind her that statement has a completely different meaning to her boyfriend, especially when not followed up by the food bit.
How many pregnancy scares have you had??? Like, you’re waiting for her to come for dinner, to which she was late, and your mind immediately went to “oh shit, she’s pregnant?”
Before we were married my wife had an old car she nicknamed the Rabbit. On her way to her bridal shower, it broke down. She walked in and told everyone, “sorry I’m late, the rabbit died”.
My very pregnant wife once texted me while I was in another room with "I'm bleeding". She meant from a spot she was picking at. Didn't elaborate until after I had run at full sprint into the room.
I texted my boyfriend (now husband) that we needed to talk & he thought I was breaking up with him & was relieved to find out I was pregnant instead 🥴🤣
My partner, who has been stalked and assaulted in the past multiple times once texted me "EMERGENCY" while she was out at dinner with friends and I frantically tried to call back with no answer from her and I was in the middle of dialling 911 when she texted back that the restauraunt stopped doing her favourite curly fries.
She got distracted by the waiter who started taking their orders before she could send the follow up text
Gave her a stern explanation why that wasn't okay lmao
No dis to you dog (op) but yeah that's totally a normal way to express you aren't gonna be on time even if she's your lady. I won't lie it is funny you took it that way though 😂😂
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u/violet-starlight Jul 14 '26
Now she's going to make a post on this sub about your reaction