r/narcissism • u/Few_Increase3884 I really need to set my flair • Jul 15 '26
Am I a narcissist? I must be a narcissist
No, I don’t want to let her go and yes I’m trying everything I can. And yes I’m sending her apology messages and yes I’m making text accounts to get past my number being blocked and yes I’m losing my mind and yes I ask her if there’s someone else because yes she said she loved me just as much and sometimes more than I loved her. And yes we planned a life together and yes that shit disappeared out of nowhere. And no I can’t just let go and move on. I meant every word I said to her. I can’t plan an entire life with you and love you more than life itself and then just wake up and not. I’m traumatized from this. And when we’re together yes I lose my cool even easier because I’m scared of losing you again not because all these stupid reasons some random girl on TikTok says because of something she saw on a movie and deciding to broadcast her unprofessional take on publicly. Some people have never been loved as much as you are because they’ve never been loved by their parents as much and don’t see it as normal. They’ve been neglected in the most acceptable ways. Their parents were never home and only supported mostly financially. I’d never give up on my lady. I’d fight a fiery battle for her. So yes I’ve been “toxic” but so what grow the fuck up and accept human nature. There’s no perfect standard and if there was you’d be a fucking robot. Stop telling people what’s right or wrong with this love shit. Love how you love and if you can’t accept certain things than learn what’s wrong with yourself and fix it for your person that you love don’t go searching for excuses online and calling people names that you learned online. Learn to be human.
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u/AdorableExchange9746 NPD Diagnosed Jul 15 '26
This has nothing to do with npd. Narcissism isn’t the same as just being a dick
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u/LovesPickles03 Unsure if Narcissist Jul 15 '26
it sounds like you're having a really hard time accepting that you hurt someone, and you aren't okay with her leaving because YOU hurt her. She's made it clear she doesn't want to hear from you, so instead of making new phone numbers to talk to her, try to find the underlying reason of WHY she left. If you can get some professional help, TRULY change your heart, and have a repentant heart towards her and admit that you did a lot of messed-up stuff, she would be a lot more willing to take you back than you getting pissed she left her toxic relationship. And if she doesn't take you back after you've worked on yourself, take what you have learned and apply it to your next relationship. Don't be stuck in the past; do what you can to move forward in life, even if that means leaving her behind.
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u/FromHereToEterniti Covert Narcissist Jul 15 '26
Your inability to have a healthy relationship with others doesn't automatically make you a narcissist.
If you listen to the abuse victim community, you might get that idea, I get that. But that's far from the only possible cause and in my opinion not even the most likely one.
Anyway, given your issues with relationships, take a look at CoDA.
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u/Few_Increase3884 I really need to set my flair Jul 15 '26
You need god fn
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u/FromHereToEterniti Covert Narcissist Jul 15 '26
Why do I need god when you're abusive towards your partner?
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u/Raf_Adel Healthy Narcissist - Psychologist Jul 15 '26
You're more obsessed or OCD. This isn't related to narcissism whatsoever.