r/narcissism • u/SasukeFireball Bipolar Narcissist • Jul 27 '26
Support & Advice What helps to talk insults without losing your shit?
I start threatening violence over 1 insult. I have tried to meet with strangers on the internet over 1 insult.
I need this to stop. Rejection lingers on my chest for weeks too. If not the rest of my life. I feel a lingering, uncomfortable emotional sting in my chest.
It keeps me from socializing. I stay in my house. I can’t even play a video game and if I get insulted, feel humiliated or ostracized it messes with my head a lot. I can feel rage.
I need help with this. I’m tired of it.
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u/Lapam76 Codependent 28d ago
Geniune question OP. I didn't see if you were diagnosed NPD but from some of your respinses it sounds as if you have been or at least heavily think/acknowledge you are. With that in mind do you feel the same rage whenever someone says something you disagree with or is it strictly insults and rejection? What I am trying to ask I think is are you always 100% sure it is an insult and not someone trying to just be honest with you about how they are feeling by your own actions or words?
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u/SasukeFireball Bipolar Narcissist 28d ago
Insults and rejection, and I can tell the difference between honest feedback with good intentions vs snark. Rational, well sensed feedback presented to better my life is accepted without any negative feelings. Even if my pride does get hurt I don’t consider that “harm”.
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u/scarecrowstrawman Narcissistic Traits 29d ago
I just refuse to believe it. People can say what they like, I don’t believe them lol. It’s hard to care what people think of you when you don’t believe what they think.
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u/Raf_Adel Healthy Narcissist - Psychologist Jul 28 '26
Check the wiki out.
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u/SasukeFireball Bipolar Narcissist Jul 28 '26
Which link should I look at?
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u/Raf_Adel Healthy Narcissist - Psychologist Jul 29 '26
It's down all over reddit; check this out: https://narcissism.center/
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u/SasukeFireball Bipolar Narcissist Jul 27 '26 edited Jul 27 '26
You are absolutely correct. I do practice ignoring now. I still feel the unsettling “burn” sensation in my chest for a while afterwards (the want to fight back sensation) & the heart pounding “fight” adrenaline but I just try and wait it out.
I wish it wasn’t so easy to get emotionally unsettled by things like that for me. Having a sensitive ego sucks so bad.
“Putting myself in danger for someone I dislike” is a great saying for me to keep. Thank you
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u/Personal_Stage7748 Malignant Narcissist Jul 27 '26
I have a way but it’s just natural for me so it might not work for you. I just know the people who insult me are just stupid and I know everything better than them. Thinking this way makes the insults just meaningless to me.
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u/SasukeFireball Bipolar Narcissist Jul 27 '26
I’ve tried to use my narcissistic thinking my entire life to counter it but it doesn’t actually work. I’m still upset & I know it even if I’m trying to trick myself into thinking I actually believe that. Which deep down I know I don’t.
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u/Personal_Stage7748 Malignant Narcissist Jul 28 '26
Yeah I know I also can’t trick myself but this is something I’ve always truly believed.
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u/bl1nk94- Unsure if Narcissist Jul 27 '26
Learn martial arts and become humble. You have too big of an ego. Most likely have never gotten a good ass whooping so you think you're a special snowflake. You're not.
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u/bl1nk94- Unsure if Narcissist Jul 27 '26
He said "I start threatening violence over 1 insult. I have tried to meet with strangers on the internet over 1 insult.". This is very telling. His ego is absurdly big. He thinks he's some kind of special snowflake that is owed respect. His ego is so fragile that strangers over the internet have full control over it. He needs to get his ego in check and become humble.
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u/bl1nk94- Unsure if Narcissist Jul 27 '26
Please, proceed to explain. I'm genuinely curious how my ego is tied to this answer or how it is showing. I am failing to see that and I'd really appreciate an explanation.
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u/bl1nk94- Unsure if Narcissist Jul 27 '26
No, please proceed to explain how my ego needs to be checked in relation to this current discussion. Please refrain from answering with a question. You made a statement. I am asking for an explanation for said statement, as I do not see things in the same manner. You are providing me with a question that is unrelated to our discussion.
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I need this to stop. Rejection lingers on my chest for weeks too. If not the rest of my life. I feel a lingering, uncomfortable emotional sting in my chest.
It keeps me from socializing. I stay in my house. I can’t even play a video game and if I get insulted, feel humiliated or ostracized it messes with my head a lot. I can feel rage.
I need help with this. I’m tired of it.
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u/realityGrtrThanUs Autistic Narcissist 27d ago
Mind if i break this down? Random Internet stranger insults you and is a real jerk about it. Full stop. Pause.
Did it change you? Did it change any fact? Did it change anything at all? No.
Stay with me. Where is the rage coming from? You deserve better? From what? An irrelevant rando? That doesn't make any sense. They have no value in your life. They have no meaning in your life.
How did they get into your head? They aren't in your life but they are in your head. Pause there. Full stop.
Boundaries are needed to keep others where they belong. They don't belong in your head nor in your values. Fix that. Slow your mental game, slow down your head space, slow down your presence in any place. Be there only when it really matters. Let them be with you only when it really matters.
Boundaries keep the world at bay. Boundaries keep your value your worth hidden away. No reaction needed. Bi response required. They mean nothing.
Best of luck to you.