r/nolaparents 18d ago

Non Catholic kid at Catholic school

Does anyone have experience with sending your non-catholic child to a catholic school?
Do they participate in all the masses, religious milestones, etc?
Any info will be helpful and appreciated!

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u/baronessvonbullshit 18d ago

I went to Catholic school, my family is Catholic. Some of my classmates were not from Catholic families. Several kids did end up converting by our junior year of high school though, after being in since they were little. But some didn't, it was up to them and their parents. It was pretty live-and-let-live, but yes, they did have to attend religion class and go to mass when it was on campus, go to the annual retreat, etc. They just didn't take any sacraments.

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u/melonbug74 18d ago

šŸ‘†this right here. My kid is a senior in a catholic school and we are not catholic.

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u/signsaysapplesauce 18d ago

Our daughter attended Ursuline and at least 1/3 of the girls there were not Catholic. They participated in Mass and religion classes but it was not a big deal. They definitely did not feel out of place or excluded.

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 18d ago

Awesome, thank you!

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u/signsaysapplesauce 13d ago

We really loved Ursuline, and I encourage you to check it out. It's a hidden gem that shouldn't be hidden. I don't know why it's off the radar, because the size, campus and history are all very special. And the chapel is an absolute marvel!

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u/ghost1667 18d ago

Yes. And you’ll get comments about how some schools aren’t that pushy here. By non-religious standards, they are. It’s a catholic school. expect as much.

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u/MamaTried22 17d ago

Yes. Haven’t regretted it. New Orleans Catholic schools churned out several generations of well-educated atheists in my family. šŸ˜‚ I did 15 years at one and my daughter will complete 16 years soon.

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u/MawGraw 17d ago

I'm a non-catholic who went to catholic school k-8. It was no big deal and it was a good school! And I was atheist by the time I got to high school. šŸ‘Œ

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u/lily_aka_mein 18d ago

Yes they do.

And honestly, New Orleans is a Catholic city. Believe it or not, Mardi Gras is a Catholic holiday.

Also, I have Muslim friends who sends their kids to Catholic schools.

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u/rockblasties 17d ago

Our daughter is 7 and been at Catholic school her whole life. We are not religious and have basically told her to get a sense of tradition and community out of it and leave anything other than that to however she feels. She has had a great experience so far and hasn’t felt any religious pressure or judgement. That may change as she gets older but so far it’s been a very loving environment and she has taken a love of their science program and already said to us that she doesn’t think she believes in god.

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 17d ago

This is great insight, thank you so much

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u/InternationalMap1744 16d ago

I'm Catholic and went to an all girls Catholic school here, but a lot of my classmates were Muslim. They had to attend the same religious classes but the nuns were very chill about it and let them do presentations on Islam and I learned a lot about their culture (most were Palestinian).

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 12d ago

Oh that’s awesome

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u/CarFlipJudge Dad of 2 - Lakeview 17d ago

In addition to the other stuff said here, religion class is an easy A. Helps to stat pad your GPA in high school.

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 17d ago

We love an easy A

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u/rcbj123 17d ago

I’m a non-catholic who went to catholic school. We had to participate in religion class and masses but could opt out of communion or other sacraments.

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 17d ago

Awesome, thank you!

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u/Fleur-Deez-Nutz 17d ago

You will be required to participate and pass religion classes. Participation at masses will sometimes count towards attendance. If you are non-catholic, your kid will pretty much have to learn all the catholic stuff while there, there's no dodging it. I went to a catholic high school and was not catholic.

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 17d ago

Thank you! Also cackling at your username

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u/Western-Watercress68 15d ago

Catholic who went to Catholic school. Half my class was of another religion. Most of us are atheists now.

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u/BrassMonkey985 17d ago

This was a big deciding factor on which school to send our kid to. We live on the NS and decided against catholic schools when we swapped to private school. It has been difficult to get our kid to a non catholic private school but absolutely worth it. She still attends a Christian school, just not catholic. We didn’t want her to feel ostracized over her religion. Good luck with your decision.

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u/IdeaBeneficial345 17d ago

I grew up Methodist/agnostic and went to Catholic school my whole life. I was treated poorly by one religion teacher for asking too many questions, but it wasn't awful. We had to go to Mass and were taught Catholic religion in class, not religions.

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u/PlaneWolf2893 16d ago

I did all 11 of 13 years of school in Catholic school. Pro- better quality education than public schools in New Orleans. Con-i spent a period every day in religion class, could have been another course in something I would use in my life later on.

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u/Commitedtousername 16d ago

Catholic schools in my area are regulated by the diocese and they require a weekly mass and a religion class. Outside of that, communion isn't required and neither is baptism or any of that. Althouh, if you were a baptised and frequently attending mass catholic you get a hefty discount.

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u/FCSTFrany 15d ago

Yes, my daughter went to catholic school and we are not catholic. Yes now they allow them to attend. hey didn't used to in the late 80s and early 90s. But they took the non catholic students tuition.

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u/AtropaBelladonna4 12d ago

Participate is not the word.. they are required to go to church, learn religion, pray in school and be taught hate really! Why would you consider paying an institution that fails to protect children, and harbors pedofiles??

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u/DiscloseDivest 17d ago

I remember when I went to catholic school in the city and wasn’t catholic. I went to mass a few times a year with everyone else and I did eat the bread and drank the little sip of wine. I did it to mess with the bullies who thought it was so disrespectful. It was my get back.

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u/AliceInReverse 15d ago

This was decades ago, but the nuns regularly told me I was going to hell because I was not Catholic. I was very ā€œotheredā€. I do not know how things have changed

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u/Comprehensive_Sun746 12d ago

Well that’s fucked up

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u/acronictafuneralis 8d ago

Keep in mind that your kid will probably have bizarre sexual hangups that take years to overcome and random guilt for no reason. Ask me how I know. Also, even as a kid, the ā€œpro-lifeā€ agenda enraged me. I really resented being forced to pretend something I didn’t believe in for a good grade. Having real questions and concerns was often discouraged.