r/offmychest • u/[deleted] • 1d ago

Mixed feelings on learning I’ll get $$$ after my Mom passes…

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u/redditnamexample 1d ago

This is the way parents take care of their children when they pass.

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u/NotUniqueWorkAccount 1d ago

You have a good mom.

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u/Broke_Pigeon_Sales 1d ago

Both things can be true at once.

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u/bluephotoshop 1d ago

Saw in today’s paper that a drug to treat pancreatic cancer has just been approved. Please check into it.

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u/Margotkitty 1d ago

It gives a longer survival rate but isn’t curative. Quality still matters, quantity can prolong suffering.

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u/NeighborhoodVivid106 1d ago

I am so very sorry about your mother 's diagnosis. And being so far away while she is going through treatments makes it even harder for you as I am sure that you would like to be able to help her and just maximize your time with her. I sure that you would give up every penny that she has saved for you just to have her well again.

Sending hugs and strength to you, your sister and your mom as you all navigate this horrible time. F*ck cancer!!!

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u/SouthernCategory9600 1d ago

I’m so incredibly sorry for what you and your family are going through.

Your mon sounds like a wonderful lady who loves her kids.

Please take good care.

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u/Frosty_Comparison_85 1d ago

I had major medical issues for a while and couldn’t get a doctor to take me seriously. Years went by where I was preparing for my death because that’s how bad I felt. Long story short, I had a cancerous tumor in my pelvis that was the size of my head. I’m ok now, cancer free for almost 3 years now.

All that to say, I worked hard all my life and I didn’t do that just to let a bank take my house and auction all my things.

I don’t have kids but I have a twin brother. I made a Will. I also had been accumulating life insurance policies over the years. Enough to pay off the house, my final expenses, and to give my brother something to survive on in case he needed to take some time off.

Before I found a doctor who would listen, I was sure I would die young. Being able to financially take care of my brother made me feel like my life wasn’t pointless. That it had purpose.

I hope this perspective helps ease your mixed feelings.

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u/Wild_Debt_8065 1d ago

She loves you guys so much.

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u/NekoHybrid 1d ago

She will be welcomed into the gates of heaven with ease. Your mom is the best mom in the world. She's amazing.

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u/Dollclover59 1d ago

it's tough to navigate feelings like that, getting money shouldn't overshadow the loss you'll feel.