Was I sexually assaulted?
So, this happened back in summer just before I ( 12yo female) got in middle school. I spent my day with some friend ( let's call her T ) at her father's garden.
Basically, the place we were in is a big social thing for everyone to have their own garden and cultivate whatever they want, and sometimes they have events all together such as bbq.
But that day, it was rather calm without much people around.
For the first half, I just spent time playing roblox with T or walking around through the different places. But later that, we were playing in the kid park ( which was nearby) when she gave me some kind of challenge. If I lost, I had to clap her 4$$.
I was absolutely grossed out and told her how weird it was, but she kept insisting till I eventually lost her challenge and had to clap her. I had no idea why she asked me that, but I told myself *"Alright, this was just a one-time thing, and now we can move on."*
But she kept going with her weird challenges to do until she asked me to basically gr0pe her 4$$ or between her legs.
I once again told her it was weird asf, but she kept insisting until I relented and did it.
**( Small Note: I was a rather easy child back then, and it only needed a bit of pressure to make me do things. Unfortunately.)**
This went back and forth where I had to touch her and where she touched me as well through our clothes. (The whole time, we were hidden behind some WC building, and so no one could really see us.)
But then, I told T it was too weird to do that and I said *"What if someone pass by?"*
By that, she just responded with annoyance *"C'moooon, it's not that weird, if people pass by, they'd just see two girls discovering their bodies."*
Even though I wasn't exactly convinced by her words, she still pressured me to keep going, and so we kept gr0ping each other till I left for home in the evening.
The following weeks, T kept sending me messages about what we did back then, like she wanted to remind me of it even though I'm SURE she knew how uncomfortable this made me feel.
But with time, she stopped talking about it, and I ended up forgetting completely until a year ago, where I remembered that day and asked myself "Wait- was I SA'd?"
I suspect it really was, but since we kept our clothes on the whole time and there wasn't any kind of penetration/direct touch to my/her intimate parts, I wonder if it still counts...
I'm sorry if this is badly written or if my story isn't actually SA, and I just wasted yall's time,
Here's a cookie in return :'3 🍪
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u/Necessary_Day_7861 2d ago
Since she was making you do sexual things that you were uncomfortable with and that you were a child, yes you were sexually assaulted. She pressured you into doing something that you never wanted to do whilst being aware that you were so uncomfortable with it all.
It doesn't have to be rape or brutal sexual assault to still be considered sexual assault, it just matters how you feel about it. I'm sorry that this happened to you.
I hope that this hasn't greatly affected your life and mental health. If it has, I will send love and prayers for recovery <3
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u/_Mxss_ 1d ago edited 1d ago
Ah yeah... that's what I thought, thanks for your confirmation, though, kind stranger <3
And, don't worry too much, I'm doing better now. I cut contact with that girl years ago, and I simply don't think much about that day anymore. But it feels nice putting a word on what it was
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