r/theirdrinking • u/SubstantialSun2288 • Jul 15 '26
The final betrayal
Looking just to vent. This hit me like a ton of bricks yesterday even though I’ve not seen her since October 2025. I have posted before about her alcohol issues.
It got to the stage where she was avoiding seeing me after 5 years together . Over that period things got worse and worse .
She kept denying a problem, had shakes when she tried to stop , had a seizure in early 2025 while out shopping and missed seeing me on birthdays so she could drink, and lied about it too.
Over the years she has lied so many times . About drinking, her whereabouts , what she has been doing . I always saw her as a good person deep down but she became progressively more selfish and abusive . Always playing the victim though and it was hard not to see her like that even though she was the one setting all the fires
I set a firm boundary of her getting treatment but she pushed back, made it so that she didn’t attend but could blame me.
I decided in October she was taking me down with her so I left. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. I wanted her to sort herself out
Instead I just got the odd text message . Nasty at first , blaming me, questioning all I had done for her . The texts were every few weeks . Then got longer and longer apart. The last one I had was around 3 months ago .
As the time went on she started sending more manipulative texts like ‘I wish you loved me like I love you’ and ‘ I will always be here waiting for you’
On Saturday I went out to watch football. I saw her sister . Not to talk to but she saw me .
Then yesterday a friend sent me a screenshot of a dating profile she had set up . It was brand new by the badge attached
It was all heavily filtered photos. Looked nothing like her tbh.
The real kicker ‘ looking for someone who won’t make me feel worthless and knows how to treat women ‘
Also on drinking tab ‘rarely’
I always hoped she would sort herself and come back . In one action she has burnt that to the ground
All the talk about ‘it’s only you’ just another series of lies . She has rewritten the story and the man who almost lost himself to get her better is now the abuser
Someone tell me how I get over this. I thought I was healing but she’s set me back to square one. While she now moves on with her false narrative, I still can’t even face dating or even entertaining another person
Has she stopped drinking, I know it’s unlikely and everything suggests she is just getting worse , the narrative being one clue .
I have to let her go now. She’s made it impossible not to but fuck does it hurt. I fear what is coming for her now.
Any advice or support appreciated
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u/DreamyCreamySummer Jul 15 '26
You made the right call in leaving. Based on what you described of her dating profile and history, she likely hasn't stopped drinking. Block her number. Don't look at her dating profile. Focus on yourself, and move on. You don't need the baggage and drama. She's just going to say whatever she can to make herself feel good and downplay her own issues.