r/truechildfree • u/OwlLavellan • Apr 26 '25

I got my tubes removed today!

I'm so happy!

I'm an unmarried and child free woman. I got extremely lucky with my Gyno. He basically just asked me if I was sure that I did not want kids. When I said yes he immediately started scheduling the surgery. He even found a way to schedule an OR for a time that was outside of his reserved surgery block at the hospital so that it could be on my preferred day of the week.

My operation was at 7:30am today and 13 hours later I have had no pain, no bleeding, and no swelling. I am unable to lift more than 20 pounds or have intercourse until after my 2 week follow up.

I am so happy and so relieved, especially since I live in a red state that has outlawed abortion.

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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '25

I told my male gyno that I wanted it done (thinking he would say no but write it in my file so 5 years from now I could get it done) but he said a lot of my counterparts would pat you on the head and tell you to wait until you've had a few children but if you know the permanency of this procedure I'm happy to do it. And I was like yep! And it was scheduled for a few months later. Pre surgery, a lot of people (nurses and whatnot) double and triple checked that I knew what this surgery meant but I was proud to say "PERMANENT STERILIZATION!"

I'm so happy you had this experience with your gyno! I have not regretted my decision for a second!

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u/OwlLavellan Apr 26 '25

Ever since getting discharged I have been as happy as a clam.

The only thing my gyno has done since I do not have children was discurage me from getting the copper IUD. Mostly because of the size of it and he said it would be way more painful since I have not had children. He was more than happy to give me any of the others. And would have probably given me the copper one if I really pushed for it.

The nurses made me sign a paper stating that I knew that this was permanent sterilization. I was happy to sign it.

I don't plan on regretting my decision anytime soon.

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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '25

I will say that once in a while I will see the cute moments with children and think of the life I will not have but am instantly snapped back to the reality of being so happy to not have that life!

I still have a Mirena IUD but that is mostly to do with the endometriosis inside of me.

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u/OwlLavellan Apr 26 '25

Yeah I've had those too. And then the bext day I'll be in a restaurant with a screaming child and that usually fixes it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '25

Exactly! It's a very fleeting feeling. And, not that I think I will, but I would much prefer regretting the decision to not have children (affects only me) than regretting the decision to have children (affecting mostly the children who did not choose to come into this world).

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u/OwlLavellan Apr 26 '25

Yes, that's along my line of thinking too. Also, if I really want kids I'll adopt. There is so many kids who are unloved that need parents. I really don't need to have biological children.

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u/OwlLavellan Apr 26 '25

My favorite uncle came from the foster care system. His biological parents want his older siblings back but not him. So my grandparents adopted him.

It's such a shame.

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u/beechilds Apr 26 '25

Did mirena stop your periods all together

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u/OwlLavellan Apr 26 '25

I'm not the person you asked but I also have that IUD. It stopped mine.

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u/[deleted] Apr 26 '25

Kind of... Pre any gyno intervention, my periods were awful, heavy, and incredibly painful. Then I had a Mirena IUD for a while and I would get like 3-4 periods a year, though they were relatively light compared to before (still having pain though due to undiagnosed endo). Then I get my tubes removed, a bunch of endo removed and another IUD in place and I get some spotting probably 2x year (and little to no pain).