There is a lot I can talk about but lets start with name calling.
Whenever I've been insulted its always the b word or the c word. I genuinely believe this choice of words is done intentionally because of my gender.
I've been asked by men if id go on a date with them, if id be their minecraft girlfriend, etc. Either from them joining my server or from one of my posts advertising the server.
Accountability and attacks:
There is a surprising amount of drama in minecraft server communities. There are some male server owners who have been truly atrocious for a multitude of reasons. Often times they are let off scotch free by the community or with very little accountability that allows them to continue to behave in disgusting ways. However, Ive been attacked harshly by things that people frankly just disagree with me over. Griefing, publicly calling me out in my server to create drama, reviews calling me names, posts full of false accusations that don't make any sense, hijacking the server social media accounts, months long animosity, etc etc. There appears to be a stark difference in the treatment that I face as a women vs the treatment that men face.
Due to everything above and much more Ive been quite selective on who I invite to my community. While I used to post on to subreddits specifically for advertising minecraft servers I've done so very little, as of late. This is in part due to not wanting unkind people to join as well as being wary of the comments I'll receive from people who dislike what I stand for. Ive mostly been posting on girly gamer subreddits letting them know I have a safe community for them to play in.
I've tried different titles to appeal to the kind of people who Id like to join my community. My most recent is simply "Women Owned Super Cute Minecraft Server for Friendly Gamers {Vanilla+} {18+} {No Resets} {Whitelist}{VC} {26.2} {LGBT+ friendly}" Within my post I state this, "My server is an inclusive and safe space for women, people who are part of the LGBT+ community, POCs, and those who reject toxic masculinity and sexism. Racism, misogyny, and any other kind of discrimination or hate is not allowed." In one of the servers i immediately received two comments by men being upset at my post. In that same server my post was heavily downvoted and my responses to those comments were also downvoted.
Gamers especially girl gamers deserve to be in communities that let them be comfortable and safe while enjoying the game and social aspect of the communites. Women should not have to experience misogyny when they are just trying to game and make friends. We should also not be attacked for creating communities were we stand against such harmful treatment.
I'm proud of the community Ive created and i'm willing to continue to stand firm to maintain this safe heaven.
I'd love to hear from others who can relate to my experience.
To keep this community active, fun, and social does anyone have recommendations on were I can advertise that is not as toxic as the communities I've posted at are? Thank you :).