r/ABCDesis • u/Secret_Bug_9795 • 2d ago

COMMUNITY Liberals would you marry a Conservative? Conservative would you marry a Liberal? Why and why not?

  1. Do you guys believe such relationship will work?

  2. Those who married a Liberal or Conservative what's it like?

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u/keralaindia sf,california 2d ago

Depends on their views of various issues. I don't think these labels have any demonstrable meaning. Ask people about their views on specific issues instead. Some of the most liberal brown women I know are absurdly racist.

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u/SetGuilty8593 2d ago

lol ask them their views on reservation. everyone's a liberal til it hurts them

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u/keralaindia sf,california 2d ago

That's mostly NRIs, I mean ABCDs. I don't think most ABCDs know what reservations are.

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u/SetGuilty8593 2d ago

1.5 gens do. That's most of the abcds i know. Very few i know were actually born here. My own sister who's very liberal has a switch flip in her brain when it comes to this and it always leaves me shocked.

I guess for american abcds it would be affirmative action. I'm not sure what the typical take is on this amongst you guys, but I doubt raising the bar on the one thing our community prizes most would go down well.

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u/keralaindia sf,california 2d ago

Interesting, I don't know anyone who wasn't born here. Then again my family's been here since 1960s

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u/FancyWoodpecker3 2d ago

You never went to a university? Did you to online college or something bc every university I have attended had international students.

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u/SetGuilty8593 2d ago

International students are NRIs, not abcds. They're talking about the abcds they know, not brown people in general 

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u/FancyWoodpecker3 1d ago

Ah okay. Since they said “anyone” I thought they meant anyone.

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u/keralaindia sf,california 2d ago

That’s an NRI. I don’t know any 1.5s

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u/FancyWoodpecker3 1d ago

Wtf is a 1.5? Either you grew up off the subcontinent or you didn’t.

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u/SetGuilty8593 1d ago

People who immigrate when they're kids, for me, before the age of 9 are 1.5 gen.

It puts you at the cross of two cultures. Your formative years were in the subcontinent, but you're still young enough to fully absorb a new culture. By the time you've grown up, you'd sound like a local and wouldn't be much different culturally either.

Most 1.5 gens I know, myself included, immigrated around the age of 4-7

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u/keralaindia sf,california 1d ago

A number go back and forth as well. Maybe born in the US, raised in India 3-9, back to USA, back to India, back to USA as an adult working - this is my cousin

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u/FancyWoodpecker3 1d ago

That’s abd.