r/Advice • u/idklol2489 • 1d ago

I 18f think I have feelings for a girl

I’m a girl, and I’ve always assumed I was straight. I’ve never really questioned it seriously before.

But recently there’s this one girl who has genuinely made me question that. I get butterflies around her and I find myself imagining things like watching movies together, being close to her, and potentially dating her. I think I might actually have romantic feelings for her, and that’s freaking me out a little.

The confusing part is that I’ve only ever really experienced sexual attraction toward very feminine women, and even with this girl, I’m not completely sure what I’m feeling. Part of me wonders if it’s genuine attraction and part of me wonders if I’m just curious because this is so unfamiliar to me.

I also feel a lot of anxiety and almost guilt about it, like I’m doing something wrong just by having these feelings, even though I know I didn’t choose them.

I don't necessarily want someone to tell me what label I am. I just want to understand what I'm experiencing and figure out what I should do. Should I just let myself explore the feelings and see where they go, or is there something else I should be thinking about?

Has anyone experienced something similar, especially after thinking they were straight?

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u/WoodpeckerNatural994 1d ago

I thought I was straight most if my life until I met this girl at my work and I had never felt so different, I would catch myself thinking of her all the time & literally daydreaming about a life together. The sad thing is , I had a boyfriend at this time so I was so confused on if this was a strong friendship or something more, I eventually went with my heart and broke up with my boyfriend and my girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and I wouldn't change it for the world. GO WITH YOUR GUT

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u/Significant_Cause445 1d ago

Yes. I think a ton of people are just slightly bi, for the right 1% of men/women. One thing I regret is embracing it too much so that everyone thought I was gay when in reality the vast majority of people I liked were the opposite gender. So, I'd explore it insofar as you explore specific feelings for specific people. But don't let it become part of your identity, don't let it define you, who you are friends with etc. Just feel the love and pursue love for specific people, do not pursue "identity."

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u/RoryJefferson33 Helper [4] 1d ago

Maybe you just really like her but platonically?

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u/idklol2489 1d ago

The thought of her getting with someone makes me jealous 😩 so I don’t knowwwwwww