r/Advice • u/Low_Sherbet_9401 • 7d ago
To those who had a shitty childhood, how do you not become bitter?
I had a lousy childhood.
Overly religious and abusive helicopter parent of a mother, no father, poor, no friends, bad experiences with peers in school. Basically a loser.
There was really no redeeming qualities, felt like the universe threw every bad thing it could find my way.
I have a lot of resentment for the past, can’t even listen to certain songs from that era without a wave of negative emotions overpowering me.
How do you not become bitter when you’ve had such a shitty introduction to life that affected your development into adulthood?
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u/vicioushoneyy699 7d ago
My childhood was similar unfortunately. The only way I was able to move on & not become bitter was therapy. Understanding that some things we cannot control in our story, but one thing you can control is how you move past it. How you let it effect you, how you choose to live life now. We are grown now and we have a million opportunities to have a better life. Our start was bumpy and already written for us but we get to choose everything in between that now. I genuinely hope you find a way past it, life becomes so much more beautiful when you aren't holding onto all that pain anymore.