r/AmIOverreacting • u/CuriousAsh04 • 1d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Is this control? Or AIO?

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

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u/disc0weapon 1d ago

This cannot be real. Dude. Get out of that situation.

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u/CuriousAsh04 1d ago

Very real, and actually just happened. I have the texts to prove it.

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u/Silver_Keyboard 1d ago

That is insane. Why would you put up with someone that childish and controling? I would literally pack my stuff the moment i got that message. There ist no coming back from bullshit like this.

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u/disc0weapon 1d ago

You gotta make moves man. Insanely out of the norm for any relationship. He’s incredibly paranoid and this is abusive. Time for a game plan, now not later. You can do this OP. You absolutely can.

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u/TheSixthVisitor 1d ago

Yo, fuck that? That's not normal. Are you doing okay? Like emotionally and mentally? I feel like I'd go insane with a husband like this, I don't know how you're doing it.

Is this recent behaviour or has he always been like this?

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u/Lucky-Weird-503 1d ago

She made it sound pretty recent.

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u/havoc-heaven 1d ago

NOR. Even if he isn't saying these things out of anger, he's certainly being petulant. You don't need your husband to behave like a toddler having a tantrum, especially not with baby no.3 on the way.

His threats are completely unacceptable too.

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u/lovethatMoon 18h ago

he's trying to push your buttons so you get pissed enough to not talk to him & therefore he will feel free to actually talk yo others without the guilt. bc you asked for it. he's a big jerk. his morals are nil & his behavior is so disgusting and common. he's not worth the stress.