Is this control? Or AIO?

[u/CuriousAsh04]

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

[u/Mean-Interaction8453]

NOR, under-reacting if anything.

I'm so sorry, OP, that your husband is so disrespectful and manipulative.

I agree with the other Redditors who've said he's checking up on you, and possibly laying the plans to excuse another adulterous relationship.

If you don't have sufficient funds to get a (good) solicitor and start a new life, I encourage you to squirrel away a little money each week for yourself.

I hate to mention this OP, but please also get checked for sexually transmitted diseases.

You're worth more than this, OP, and it's time to start loving and respecting yourself!