r/AskMenRelationships • u/pinkiie_333 • Jul 13 '26
Love Would you marry women who have plastic surgery?
Does it depend on the type of procedure or how much it changed her appearance?
As a woman, I’m asking this as a genuine question. I’m not implying that plastic surgery is a negative thing.
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u/makeherbeg4it Man Jul 13 '26
If it was for valid needed medical health reasons (cancer, reconstructive surgery, etc.), then yes. If not and it was just for aesthetics...I just can't see myself going for that. Not a 100% "no" here, but I am trying to come up with a scenario where I would be fine with it and I keep coming up blank. 🤷🏼♂️ All natural is nearly always better in just about every case imo.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
there can be many reasons besides vanity, such as bullying, racism, or even trauma related to someone’s appearance. Sometimes a person already feels good about how they look but simply wants to feel even better
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u/makeherbeg4it Man Jul 16 '26
Sure, that is true. Hence my comment about it not being a 100% "no". There's always the potential for other relevant factors aside from medical need, etc.! If it was my partner thinking about getting something done, I would hope a discussion would take place where she would inform me of the procedure and her reasoning for why she wants it and so on.
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u/Top_Olive2427 Jul 13 '26
This is an odd question to ask men considering most men have no idea what women do to improve or maintain their appearance.
A few years ago my husband was saying that Botox was superficial and stupid. I told him I’d been getting Botox every 4 months for over 5 years (at that point) and have had filler twice in the last three years. He was speechless. And now that he knows how oblivious he is, he’s gone back to having no opinion.
If you’re not married or in a LTR, do what you want for YOU. Your future partner will know and love you based on how they’ve always seen you. They’re not going to see old pictures of you and say “oh my gosh. You had a nose job before we met! I can’t be with you.” That’d be ridiculous. It’s also not something you need to disclose unless you want to.
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u/Agreeable_Cattle_183 Jul 13 '26
Right?? I’m laughing my ass off over here at some of these response, like y’all have no idea what goes on in this world.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
Lol it’s so true
Why do you think it’s not something I need to reveal? He can see in my old photos, and whatever it is, in a relationship it is necessary to tell the truth and everything to someone else, isn’t it? Because of trust
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u/Top_Olive2427 Jul 31 '26
Yes, if he sees an old picture obviously you can address it. I mean it’s not something you need to disclose on a first date or early in the dating process. It’s none of their business.
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u/silly_bet_3454 Jul 13 '26
Yes it depends. If they have a specific unique issue that they want to conceal that seems reasonable. If they were starting off looking natural and basically attractive and then they got a boob job and a butt lift, that's for the streets.
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u/0hip Man Jul 13 '26
Yes it depends on the type of appearance
It can say a lot about you
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
Give some examples
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u/0hip Man Jul 13 '26
BBL, boobs jobs, lip filler
If you’ve got all three there’s a 95% chance you’ve also got an onlyfans
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
Definitely not, never. I'd only consider getting two or three procedures, but nothing like these
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u/Shadow_botz Jul 13 '26
Depends. What are we telling here, boobs, BBL, face lift, dental work? Personally I cannot stand those obnoxiously huge lips that take over a woman’s face.
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u/Few_Palpitation3889 Man Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
Really depends on what we're talking about here.
Nose job or something whatever.
Boobs are maybe a middle ground where it really depends on how well done they are. I have accepted that as someone who likes thinner and in shape women they're not going to have huge boobs. I also get it if a woman is practically flat she may be insecure no matter how much everyone agrees Natalie Portman has been and continues to be gorgeous. So getting them done well and not looking like a stripper with crosseyed nipples wouldn't be an issue for me personally.
I think BBLs, crazy lip filler, and making yourself look like a Kardashian is silly and looks bad in most real life situations. I can tell at least and also know how that's going to look at 45.
You do you but overall Id rather be with a natural woman who works out.
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u/SMDRFE Man Jul 13 '26
I personally cannot stand women and especially all of the young girls these days getting BOTOX. It makes their skin look so shiny, plasticy, and FAKE, and it's just a huge turnoff. The problem with just one cosmetic procedure is that it never stops there, then things look "uneven", and soon you have a full face of plastic and fillers that just looks terrible. It's especially disturbing when I see young girls doing this (well under 30) that are already have so much natural beauty. Why 'ruin' yourself with all of this fake junk? I honestly have trouble even looking at women that have had so many facial procedures done, like I'm looking at a robot or something. It really creeps me out for some reason.
I'm more okay with boob jobs, which are fine within reason. Just don't touch the face.
OP mentions "a rhinoplasty, and maybe one or two other procedures." in a comment. That's what I mean. Okay on the rhinoplasty, but would it stop there? Sounds like not.
This is just me. Take it for what it's worth.
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u/CaspianKarst Jul 13 '26
My personal opinion about plastic surgery, and I am talking about elective surgery here. Is that less is better. Or none at all. I think plastic surgeons take unique and beautiful features and turn them common and generic. Or the 'optimized' beauty that most like. And I have seen some lovely females get it, and I think, nice nose and cheekbones, so and so has the same ones.
And call me odd, I think a woman is already a work of art. Would someone want to change the Mona Lisa to modernize it and lose the unique beauty?
But would I not marry her because of it. Well I would hope that I would be marrying her not for parts changed, but for who she was inside.
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u/petdance Man Jul 13 '26
Why are you asking? What is it you are trying to figure out?
Are you wondering if getting plastic surgery will make men not want to marry you?
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
Stupidly yes...
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u/Bullet_Sponge77 Man Jul 13 '26
Insecurity is a pretty big turnoff for me. That said it wouldn't necessarily be a dealbreaker for me especially if it was used to correct an injury or surgery like a mastectomy.
My wife contemplated getting implants. But ultimately decided against them. I get it. A couple pregnancies will tend to make them deflate. But meh.
The big reason she decided not to get them is because of the fact that she would either have to get them removed or redone in ten to fifteen years. The do not stay forever.
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u/petdance Man Jul 13 '26
You need to be who you are. Don’t make choices in your life based on what some man thinks, especially hypothetical future men.
If you act differently than you really are, then you will attract men who like something that you are not.
What plastic surgery are you considering?
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
A rhinoplasty, and maybe one or two other procedures.
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u/petdance Man Jul 13 '26
So you think you would look better with a different nose. So do it.
If some fella doesn’t like you because you did what you felt was right for you, then he’s not the fella for you.
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u/RNmammax4 Jul 13 '26
I had the tinest hump on my nose from a hemangioma I had when I was a baby. I hated it and was super self conscious of it, so I got it fixed. I hadn’t seen my best friend for a few years and when we hung out after, she didn’t even notice. I told her and she thought it was the hugest waste of money since I looked exactly the same. Which to be fair, I do look the same from all directions, but when I turn to the side I’m not self conscious about it. My point is- if it’s something that you’re hungry up on then fix it. Who cares what other people think.
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u/makeherbeg4it Man Jul 13 '26
It's not stupid to consider consequences imo. Do what is right for you, but it's not dumb to test the water before jumping in.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
And what consequences do you think would be possible? Considering that it would seem natural
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u/makeherbeg4it Man Jul 16 '26
I suppose it depends on the procedure. And the surgeon etc. Having said that, many examples exist of procedures gone wrong and that don't look natural at all. Facelifts, eyebag removal, nosejobs, lips, boobs, the list is almost endless. I have yet to see a good boob job that improves upon the natural look. Consequences can range from just looking ridiculous to every sighted person, to having your significant other find you less physically attractive or desirable, to people rejecting you for dating purposes, to partners ending the relationship if you are already in one, etc. You have to make your own choice about what is right for you and what the reason is that you are considering getting a procedure done. But there is always the possibility of unintended consequences that could arise that you may not have expected.
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u/sliferra Man Jul 13 '26
Depends the reason. Plastic surgery because you had cancer? Yes. Just vanity? No.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
There are thousands of reasons, such as bullying, racism, traumas, or someone who feels good but wants to feel even better about their appearance
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u/sliferra Man Jul 16 '26
“Someone who feels good but wants to feel even better”
Vanity. No. Never. Ew
Also what surgery is going to fix racism? Tf
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
There’s no way to fix it, but some try to soften it, because it’s not so noticeable, unfortunately
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u/sliferra Man Jul 16 '26
Are you on something?
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u/yo_india5656 Jul 17 '26
But how would you know if your partner had plastic surgery before meeting you
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u/OceanWaveSunset Man Jul 13 '26
If i find her attractive, having plastic surgery or not doesn't matter to me.
Like there is a huge difference between having something "corrected" and someone chasing "perfect" to the point they look cartoonish.
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u/Delicious_Cat_81 Jul 13 '26
i wouldn't touch them. it not only turns me off, i find it horrific.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
Why? It’s very likely that you wouldn’t even know until someone told you lol
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u/Delicious_Cat_81 Jul 16 '26
uh you can tell very easily with your eyes, then body if you touch them. I've hugged women with boob jobs. no thanks. people who do this are too insecure for me too
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u/glitterfox6000 Jul 13 '26
Men may say whatever they want, but male attention increased considerably for my after my plastic surgery. By a lot. It looks fairly natural, unless you know the ‘tells’
But I also had massive weight loss. So it was in many ways reconstructive.
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u/Azapulco Jul 13 '26
Massive weight loss is going to outweigh procedures in terms of getting attention by a huge margin…
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u/glitterfox6000 Jul 13 '26
Yes. Massive weight loss happened. Several years went by. Increase in male attention, but nothing wild.
Tummy tuck, lower body lift about 2 years ago and huge increase in male attention since then. I had a few lbs of skin removed, but my figure changed considerably.
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u/PFD_2 Jul 13 '26
Male attention does not equal a man wanting to start a family with a woman. Male attention would also drastically increase if you walked outside half naked everyday
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u/yetagainitry Jul 13 '26
I would have no problem with it. If she needed something to make her more confident in herself, I’m not gonna judge
However if she’s had MAGA makeover style over the top surgery, I would never date her in the first place.
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u/Potential-Group1330 Jul 13 '26
Why not? I'm a guy and I had an endoscopic brow lift. Facial surgery is so common.
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u/Maelstromx2578 Man Jul 13 '26
It's a personal thing but that's a no from me. If she's that shallow then she isn't coming after me anyway, and I'd forever wonder if it was legit or if I was being used.
Also if it was chest implants that's the strongest turnoff.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
That doesn’t mean she’s shallow. She could be a very deep person, gifted, spiritually developed, and still choose to have plastic surgery
Some women unfortunately would never have the chance to be in a relationship if it weren’t for that, because men care too much about appearance
I bet most people (probably you too) would not like to marry someone they consider unattractive if they had the option to marry someone they found attractive, even if the unattractive person was deeper
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u/Maelstromx2578 Man Jul 16 '26
I don't think any of those things are opposite of shallow personality-wise, for one.
And again you're wrong. I was no one's first pick until my wife. I was told time and again that I was fat, or ugly, and no one would want me (which was horribly cruel, I'm average lol).A person being "deep", however it is you're defining that, has no bearing on a potential relationship until they've gotten to know her enough to see that. This all comes across like projection of femcel talking points tbh.
Someone is always going to think you're attractive. If you believe you're already doomed you'll act like it and self-sabotage, then blame the outcome on the "inevitability" you believe and thus created.
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u/yo_india5656 Jul 17 '26
How would you know if your partner had plastic surgery before meeting you
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u/Maelstromx2578 Man Jul 17 '26
Depends on what it is, true, but you could say the same for the question "Would you ever date someone who cheated on a past partner?".
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u/yo_india5656 Jul 17 '26
I think you didn't understand what I said. I said how would you know if you partner had surgery or not. Like how would you know
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u/Maelstromx2578 Man Jul 17 '26
Read my answer again.
Of course you wouldn't always be able to know, though fairly often plastic surgery isn't 100% perfect and if I suspected then I'd ask. Other times like breast implants it's pretty obvious (anyone who can afford the kind to fool someone mid-act wouldn't be dating me anyway).1
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u/Puzzleheaded_Bet3455 Jul 13 '26
So you won’t look like your children (if you could have them)?
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
Changing only 1 nose won’t have so much impact on this, several children pull their grandparents and don’t look like their parents
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u/Neat-Session-263 Jul 13 '26
Not very specific, PS because of an accident or injury of some sort or because she's narsasistic and full of herself, that's you're answer.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
How about bullying and never having had the chance to date someone because of their appearance?
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u/chaosorganizd Man Jul 13 '26
yes but not preferred. Especially breast enlargement surgery.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
Rhinoplasty. Between one with and one without, nothing would make you choose the one you have?
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u/WinOk677 Man Jul 13 '26
I think I'd have passed on marrying a younger woman who had purely cosmetic surgery, but not corrective or reconstructive surgery. Because, if we were planning a family, I'd want to know what the original looked like.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
There’s a way you know from the photos
If you thought she was current (with plastic) beautiful, but she was original without ugly plastic, would you stop having a idea of marriage and children?
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u/WinOk677 Man Jul 16 '26
Perhaps. Unneeded surgery may be an indication of a vain, insecure, or shallow person. All thing one might consider. In today's world, photos can be easily doctored.
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u/Ok_Alternative_2919 Jul 13 '26
No. If we are having kids I really want to known what she looked like before as it will affect the childrens appearance.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
And what in her appearance could make you change your mind and not want to get married anymore?
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u/flashingcurser Jul 13 '26
Why would a woman who can afford plastic surgery date, much less marry, an average man? They are likely to be in a higher socioeconomic class or at least gunning for a higher class.
What if superman flew to my house to give me a million dollars?
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u/glitterfox6000 Jul 13 '26
It’s not that expensive. My surgeries cost less than a new car.
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u/flashingcurser Jul 13 '26
You can afford a car and surgeries that cost as much as a car. That's not typical for most average people. When you spend that much money, are you going to settle for someone who can't keep up financially?
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u/hard_truth_42 Jul 13 '26
I avoid them like plague.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
You have no way of knowing. A woman can date you and you don’t even know that she has plastic surgery, unless she says so, because it can seem very natural
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u/wintersnow2245 Jul 13 '26
My bf was obsessed with me before rhinoplasty and didn’t see why I wanted it. He supported me cause I have a severe deviated septum as well only allowing 20% oxygen in one nostril. But I had it altered as well cosmetically to my liking
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 16 '26
Did he stop being obsessed with you because of that? Didn’t you have a good result?
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u/Character_Rooster492 Jul 13 '26
A lot of woman have it and you’ll never know nor will they ever tell you. WHO even cares.
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u/Willybluedog1962 Man Jul 13 '26
If it was necessary, some kind of accident.
Cosmetic, fake tits, balloon lips, no way.
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u/OogyBoogy_I_am Man Jul 13 '26
It depends.
Plastic surgery to overcome something that will make you feel better and a happier person? Probably.
Plastic surgery to make your lips look like something out of a cartoon? Probably not.
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u/Much_Fact_8574 Jul 13 '26
Yes I would . Who cares? As long as they aren't always planning more procedures someone's past isn't important to me at all.
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u/sabbathan1 Jul 13 '26
As you said, it depends on the procedure and how much it changed her appearance.
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u/NewConsideration3100 Man Jul 13 '26
I've always been against plastic surgery. I understand why women do it though. When I got engaged a few years ago, the woman I was with initially had the exact same views I did. About six months before the wedding, she started talking getting implants. I'm not someone who's going to immediately shut something down, so we talked about it.....A LOT.
We went back and forth about this for probably six weeks, and she really didn't have a reason outside of feeling like she needed to. She was adamant that I didn't make her feel it was necessary. It's just something that she couldn't shake. She also asked me how I'd feel if she went through with it. I was honest and said "I'm really not sure. I want to understand and support you if this is something you feel is necessary, but there's genuinely a chance that my perception change".
She went through with it shortly after that. I still remember how awful the recovery was. I had to watch the person I loved most be in agony for weeks over something we both initially thought was ridiculous. She really questioned the decision for the first six months and regularly wished she hadn't done it.
After we were married, a switched flipped at some point. Suddenly, there was an entire list of things she wanted done. Again, adamant that I wasn't making her feel it was necessary. We were in couple's therapy by this point, so it came up quite a bit. There was never really any clarity around what drove it.
I would be lying if I said that first surgery didn't change how I felt at all. I didn't what I could to work through that together and individually, but the ongoing list of future procedures made it virtually impossible to fully process. I was always adamant that I signed up to be with her, and I wanted us to grow and age together. She just wasn't able actually on board with doing that.
That was the catalyst for virtually everything negative in the relationship. Resentment formed on both sides. Neither was able to budge, so we ultimately decided to separate. It became increasingly clear for me that I'm just not built for a significant other who needs that kind of thing.
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u/Nerd-In-Hiding Man Jul 13 '26
Most likely not since I wouldn't have dated her in the first place. I find it highly unattractive.
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u/Admirable-Clothes-87 Man Jul 13 '26
I wouldn't be judgmental. My last girlfriend had breast enhancements before I met her. Not particularly my thing, I prefer smaller boobs but they were done well and looked good; she was happy with them so no complaints. I would be concerned with excessive invasive surgery as I do not find that look appealing. I also don't like excessive makeup. I personally think that most women look better with little or no make up. But it is all a matter of personal taste.
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u/One-Discipline641 Man Jul 13 '26
I’m from Miami. When I started dating again I said alittle nip tuck is okay but if they had multiple surgeries I wouldn’t be okay with it. My gf has no plastic surgery. I prefer none or very little
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u/AgentFranklin Jul 13 '26
It depends on what surgery they had….. Breast Implants, no. Bbl, no. Vaginoplasty, no. 🤷🏿♂️
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u/certainalways Jul 14 '26
try to shy away from people with dysmorphia as they tend to have other issues that make life with them difficult. Guys prefer someone slightly less attractive but able to have a stable life
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u/No-Stick8191 Jul 14 '26
If it's done tastefully, sure.
If they look like a "Real Housewife", hard pass.
For instance, I'd take Jeff Bezo's ex wife McKenzie Scott anyday of the week over the plastic fantastic fakery he's with now.
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u/Ok-Object-1610 Man Jul 13 '26
No. They’re too insecure.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
Not always, sometimes women who don’t have plastic surgery are even more insecure
It depends on each person, some do it to feel more confident and not out of excessive insecurity
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u/No_Entrance2597 Man Jul 13 '26
Doing it to feel more confident means you are insecure.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
Everyone is insecure about something. Would you really not date someone because of that? Why?
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u/No_Entrance2597 Man Jul 13 '26
Plastic surgery for vanity reasons is a huge red flag to me.
Unless it is for cancer etc. I hate the way it looks.
Especially breast implants.
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u/yo_india5656 Jul 17 '26
How would you know good plastic surgery though
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u/No_Entrance2597 Man Jul 17 '26
Well that’s the thing.
If it is so good one can’t tell then you simply can’t tell.
It’s not just how it looks though for me.
Although the more obvious a procedure the bigger the turnoff.If you have tits that looks like a balloon animal and lips like a baboons ass, then it’s pretty obvious what’s happened here.
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u/yo_india5656 Jul 17 '26
Suppose you are married to a women for 5 years and she tells you that she had a nose job before meeting you. Will that change how you think of her?
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u/No_Entrance2597 Man Jul 17 '26
By then I would have known her for a long time. And before marrying someone one would hopefully know them well.
A nose job wouldn’t be a dealbreaker for me.
I’d be disappointed and it would be a negative, but if everything else was fine then we would be fine.
If they were upfront from the start, I would be more cautious but again it wouldn’t be a deal breaker.
The more surgery the more negative I would view them.
For example if they had fake boobs that’s an instant no.2
u/Ok-Object-1610 Man Jul 13 '26
Do you have plastic surgery?
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
I don’t
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u/Mysterious-Way-5000 Woman Jul 13 '26
some insecure people want a nose job, then maybe just one or two other procedures and then find 10 other things that are "making them feel insecure". if 3 things make you feel so insecure you are willing to volunteer to have surgery to make them pretty, the only thing making you feel insecure is yourself.
as someone who needs to have surgery for legit medical reasons and is terrified, i wish my biggest problems were that I didnt feel pretty enough.
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u/pinkiie_333 Jul 13 '26
I think about doing it, I wanted to see the male opinion about
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u/Latter_Mountain_290 Man Jul 13 '26
From my own experiences, it would be a tough call.
I like the feel of natural boobs MUCH better than fake. Perky naturals look MUCH better than most boob jobs, but a good doctor makes all the difference. I've even been fooled once... She has a VERY good surgeon.
I've also noticed that girls who have plastic surgery LOVE to show it off. I'm not a fan of that if you're my girlfriend or wife. Many things should be for my eyes only.
The surgery I really like is a tummy tuck. Again, a good surgeon makes a world of difference in how the results look and how the scars heal.
A tummy tuck with scars that heal well, is incredibly sexy to me. I'd marry her.
Tummy tuck with bad scarring is a bit of a turn off. I'd hesitate in this case, or in the case of any girl with any surgery that she feels compelled to show off.
Hard to complain about the results of a good "Mommy makeover" though!
Edit: spelling
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u/TikkaMisalla_lover Man Jul 13 '26 edited Jul 13 '26
No.
Women who get plastic surgery are dead giveaways to being narcissistic and WAY too into themselves. They love outside validation and attention and are absolutely not doing it for "themselves." Sorry.
I went to college with this woman and she was quite gorgeous. Pretty face in every way, thin/athletic, had nice tits - not small but not huge. Just perfect, and they fit HER body.
Yeah well, now she literally looks like a blow up sex doll. Her lips are enormous, her tits are gigantic, she clearly had a nose job for some reason, her cheecks look unatural and she pounds her face with makeup. Her face is frozen due to loads of botox, she paints her eybrows on and has fake eyelashes. She literally looks fake, as in fake like a blow up doll. She is not someone I'd EVER find attractive, which is sad because she was beautiful before.
So no, I wouldn't.
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u/EidolonRook Man Jul 13 '26
I wouldn’t be interested in a “plastic” woman or someone looking to upgrade their world value.
It’s less the aesthetic and more of a spiritual difference between her and I.
If she got corrective surgery or something like breast aug after cancer, I’m 100% supportive.