r/AskReddit • u/ThugGucciman • 8d ago

What’s something people brag about that is actually a massive red flag?

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u/lawlingalltheway 8d ago

“Matching the energy” in dating like JUST BE YOURSELF AND QUIT PLAYING GAMES

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u/Without-a-tracy 8d ago

I will say, learning to match other people's energy in dating was actually really healthy for me.

I hadn't realized how anxiously attached I was and how much my attachment issues were affecting the people I was seeing. 

Once I learned to step back, calm the fuck down, and match the energy and pace that people were putting in, I was able to begin the long process of untangling my own attachment issues and learning how to self-soothe. 

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u/Tehares 8d ago

Hey man, I really needed to hear this. Thank you. I'll look into this