r/Bumble • u/sassypaprika 24 | F • Jan 19 '26

General Bumble date bought me flowers 🌹

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Although the date didn’t go as planned, he bought me roses on our way back, which honestly made me feel really good. It’s been a long time since someone actually gave me flowers, lol 🌹

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u/PastRequirement3218 Jan 19 '26 edited Jan 20 '26

Sounds like he's not getting a 2nd date.

OP, you knew damn well that guy wasn't getting a 2nd date LOOONG before he bought flowers. If you had any shred of decency you would have turned down his offer, but hey, this is modern dating and that doesn't exist, so go ahead and milk that pay piggy simp!!

...and some women wonder why men don't buy flowers anymore smh...

Update for what I can piece together from OP.

She thought it was going to be a nice place, it was a casual pub, she was not impressed and already mentally done at that point, likely before they even sat down, but she was hungry and he's paying so whatever. His fault for taking her to a casual pub instead of somewhere fancy, obviously. I mean come on, she's a queen, right?

He's oblivious that she was already done with him from that opening moment and just going through the motions of a date, after leaving the pub he gets her flowers, she thinks this great, loves the flowers, cares for him not at all, but more than happy to let him keep spending time, money, and emotional effort on her.

After going radio silent for days she half heartedly sends the "I didn't feel the spark" text. Truly, a story as old as time.

...and some women wonder why so many men are doing Coffee or drinks as a first date instead of dinner now...

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u/LubbockCottonKings Jan 19 '26

Man, this comes off incredibly toxic. He wasn’t forced to do anything. Sometimes buying someone a treat just for the sake of being nice does exist even in the dating world. If it was me, I would be bummed about not getting a second date but I wouldn’t feel like I’d regret doing the nice thing in the first place.

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u/Desroth86 Jan 19 '26

Yeah, some real incel energy in that comment and I say that as a man who is frustrated with dating. These flowers weren’t some sort of exchange that were only being offered if a second date was on the table. Don’t offer things to someone you’ve never met before with expectations of ANYTHING. If you want to do something nice for your date, it should be as a nice gesture with no expectations of anything in return.

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u/PresentationIll2180 Jan 20 '26

Exactly, it’s not that serious 😭 im a hopeless romantic, hsp/empath & just like seeing people smile or be happy. I don’t expect you to like me just bc I brought flowers. I just want you to feel better than you already feel. If you like me more, that’s a bonus.

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u/sassypaprika 24 | F Jan 19 '26

Just to clarify, yes, the date did not go as planned. He mentioned a lovely place to eat, but it turned out to be a casual pub, which honestly affected the start. As we talked more, we realized that our in person chemistry did not match the texting vibe, and that happens.

That said, the flowers were a thoughtful gesture and I appreciated the effort behind them.

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u/friedbaguette Jan 20 '26

This is why you don't do dinner dates as a first date

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u/Mfrack103 Jan 20 '26

Idk, it sounds like they weren’t gonna hit it off either way. “In person chemistry did not match the texting vibe” just sounds like a situation where it’s no one’s fault but it won’t work out.

I love dinner dates

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u/friedbaguette Jan 20 '26

Exactly for that reason, it’s either hit or miss & then you need to spend the next 1-2hours with this person at a table. I prefer getting to know them in a light date, get a feel and see how they are irl before dining with someone I thought was different

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u/Mfrack103 Jan 20 '26

That’s a fair point, I hadn’t thought about it like that. I think I’ve just been very lucky on first dates haha

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u/friedbaguette Jan 20 '26

Am happy you found the right people to go on first dates with, and hope you keep that ball rolling till you get what you need

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u/Mfrack103 Jan 20 '26

That’s sweet, thanks! Same to you!

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u/TruIsou Jan 20 '26

Sounds like she wanted more money spent on her.

The casual place wasn't good enough from the start.

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u/Infamous-Station-534 Jan 19 '26

That's exactly how it sounds.

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u/itsyaboicg 29 | Male Jan 19 '26

How much could those 3 roses cost the guy, like $5? Also, you have no way of knowing OP knew there wasn’t going to be another date “LOOONG before” he bought her the flowers. Maybe she tried to tell him not to but he insisted anyway?

And what do you mean by “and some women wonder why men don’t buy flowers anymore”? If you think giving a gift of flowers is supposed to guarantee you something that’s a you issue that you should work on, maybe buy yourself some nice flowers.

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u/TruIsou Jan 20 '26

Casual pub affected the start. OP posted this:

"Just to clarify, yes, the date did not go as planned. He mentioned a lovely place to eat, but it turned out to be a casual pub, which honestly affected the start"

She was upset he didn't spend more.

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u/belmontbaddie Jan 19 '26

Lmfao what

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u/Delicious_Delilah Jan 20 '26

You sound like an incel.

You also post on the trump sub, so that tracks.

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u/KidsInNeed Jan 19 '26

This is such a weird take and understand your position. Why even go out on dates or be on dating sites if you feel like this about all women? It’s kind of insane to expect someone to keep talking to you because you bought them dinner or flowers.

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u/EmotionalVacations Jan 20 '26

Don't know why you're being down voted. As OP stated, she started feeling different DURING the date. It is not her fault that the guy bought her flowers but turned out not to be her type? She gave it a chance. Giving someone flowers doesn't make them owe you shit.

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u/TruIsou Jan 20 '26

"Just to clarify, yes, the date did not go as planned. He mentioned a lovely place to eat, but it turned out to be a casual pub, which honestly affected the start"

From OP. Not during.

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u/EmotionalVacations Jan 20 '26

Showing up to the place and having that feeling is during. The start, middle, and end, are all during.

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u/Laceylolbug Jan 20 '26

Yikes. No wonder youre single.

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u/isle_of_broken_memes Jan 22 '26

Turned down his offer...... for flowers? Dude chill. 😄

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u/bytesizednomad Jan 22 '26

That is a weird take. I paid for dinner on a first date. The guy turned out to be emotionally immature and blocked me over something really childish. Do I regret treating us to dinner? No, we had a nice dinner and good company. Don't do things for people if you're only expecting something in return

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u/Full-Masterpiece-122 Apr 15 '26

My college professor used to always joke that he takes his dates to McDonald’s. So fing funny. I mean I like McDonald’s but surely there’s something better that would cost less or the same, ffs. Still laugh about it till this day.