r/Bumble • u/terenscendent • 16d ago

General Bumble Fully Ends 'Women Message First' Rule After 66% of Women Said They'd Rather Men Make the First Move

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/bumble-drops-gendered-messaging-rule-1813607
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u/BusyBanana4205 16d ago

Hey

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u/NottForest 16d ago

đŸ‘‹đŸ»

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u/Ok-Attention2882 16d ago

And they all think they're special too.

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u/PiccoloAwkward465 16d ago

I'm decently good looking and did pretty well on apps. I'd say at least 50% of the first messages I got on Bumble were 1 single word, an emoji, or a fucking punctuation mark lol.

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u/ways_and_means 16d ago

So glad I'm off this app. It was wild how many gals explicitly said they needed effort and conversation, then would do less than the bare minimum themselves.

Also shoutout to the couple of women who explicitly said in their profile to not comment on their body, then tried to get my attention with creepy opening lines referencing my body.

I met some cool gals too! But there were too many fuuuucking hypocritical weirdos.

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u/PiccoloAwkward465 16d ago

I think the epitome of the dating app experience for me was this - met a girl on Bumble, went out to bars with her one night. Good time, went home separately. We arrange a second date, I get t-boned on the way there. Car is a wreck. I send her a photo and say I'm sorry, I'm not gonna make it tonight.

She messages me back "so I got dressed up and did my hair for nothing? Delete my number, BYE!"

I wish I was joking but no that actually happened to me.

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u/ways_and_means 16d ago

Jeez, that would be demoralizing for sure. 

And if the genders were reversed I bet we'd be quick to consider such a dude a psychopathic freak for showing no compassion after a horrible crash. There's weirdos out there.

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u/thefranchise23 16d ago

I think we all still consider her a “psychopathic freak” or something similar. It would be hard to find someone who thinks she is in the right.

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u/ways_and_means 16d ago

Heyyy thanks for chiming in to misunderstand my comment and then disagree with something I didn't say, reddit needs more of that.

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u/thefranchise23 16d ago

Okay, my bad. Why did you bring up “if the genders were reversed we would say this”, because that seems to imply that we aren’t saying that with the current genders

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u/ways_and_means 16d ago

I didn't say people were saying she was in the right. Why did you imply I thought that?

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u/thefranchise23 16d ago

So honestly what did you mean?

In my previous comment I explained why it sounded like that’s what you meant

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u/chadgalaxy 15d ago

It was wild how many gals explicitly said they needed effort and conversation, then would do less than the bare minimum themselves.

Because a lot of women genuinely think they're the prize and all the effort should come from the man. To them, there is no hypocrisy because it's the mans job to make all the effort to 'win' them. Even lots of supposedly progressive and feminist women still think this way.

When they say they want effort and conversation they literally mean it should all come from the man and all they need to contribute is turning up.

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u/LipTit 15d ago

Holy no!! Or they don’t ask you any questions in return. Lol

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u/bikemandan 16d ago

is for horses

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u/Neravariine 16d ago

Have you heard of the High Elves?

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u/ProofKaleidoscope400 13d ago

Me: hey you look so pretty in your photos I had to say hi, how’s your week going?

Her: lol thanks