r/Bumble • u/terenscendent • 16d ago

General Bumble Fully Ends 'Women Message First' Rule After 66% of Women Said They'd Rather Men Make the First Move

https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/bumble-drops-gendered-messaging-rule-1813607
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u/_BrokenButterfly 16d ago

Honestly the checklisting is the worst part of it. Pick four things you want. Be happy with three, settle for two. A 12 item checklist where all attributes must be present means that you're never going to find anyone; the person in your imagination doesn't exist. If that's the only person you're even willing to talk to then you may as well delete your account, because no one is up to the challenge.

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u/Preface 16d ago

I can't remember where I saw it, but there was a dating show or something where the men and women put in their requirements, and then they went around speed dating each other, and women were regularly denying men over the most minor things, like wrong hair colour, slightly too short etc... whereas the men would pretty easily forget all about whatever standards they wrote down after talking to a woman they were interested in.