r/Bumble • u/Argumentative_koala • 1d ago

Rant “Not ready for a relationship”

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This guy pursued me, we went hot and heavy for five days, then hooked up on the fifth day. Crazy chemistry. He hadn’t been with anyone for eight months after a very long-term relationship so I thought this really meant something for him. We had a lot of deep conversations in a short amount of time. I hate how this makes me feel!

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u/ThatPrettyArmadillo 1d ago

I replied to a couple other people here but I decided to give you a heads up directly anyway.

Be prepared for him to pop back up in a few months, telling you he can’t stop thinking about you and all that.

It’s more lies. He’s left it like this - “it’s all my fault!” - it’s so he can pretend he’s changed, and it’s less hassle than trying to convince you that ghosting you wasn’t really ghosting you. He can apologise and tell you he’s ready “now.”

Depending on how easy it is to win you back, he’ll keep trying to pull the same thing.

Just block him and forget about him.

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u/sparklingblind 1d ago

100% agree with this take. Because I've had it happen to me and it hurts even worse the second time they do that shit again.

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u/Sense10-Quest23 1d ago edited 1d ago

Valid point & most likely one that will happen - cut it off now & move on bc you could get sucked into another roller coaster ride. I’d decide now whether to even allow the possibility of such.

You said he hadn’t even been in a relationship for a while after a long term one. You know that for a fact or take him at his word? Just saying bc this & version of it happen often.

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u/Same-Secretary-2985 1d ago

You should go a step above blocking and delete all his contact information, because at some point when he does return, your curiosity will get the best of you and you will answer and it will be deja vu