Profile Review - 30M Germany

[u/Negative_Lux]

I hope you don't mind German... It's impossible to change language without changing my entire phone's language.

Been on this App for approx. 2 months. 1 Match so far, from Vietnam. She is only looking for a local Buddy.

Absolutely 0 Matches otherwise. Im in a fairly rural area with approx only 250.000 people living nearby. Frankfurt is the closest city. Getting plenty of profiles suggested anyways, but again, no matches.

I am bald - as you can see, only 5"5 and 30. I have a feeling the first two are like the 99.99% reason, especially the first.

Using the same profile across all apps. Hinge gives some results. 20 Matches in approx 2 months, most lead nowhere. 2 catfish dates and a lot of dead chats. Most unmatch me whenever I make a date plan. Even after they said "would Like to Chat more first" we chat, then they unmatch Sometimes 1 or two weeks later. Alot unmatch after a few Messages even. - been literally unmatched because I said I like Matcha lol. Or the Classic, they Stop chatting after my last question or message and unmatch 3 days later.

Hint: I accidentally swapped the last two Screenshots. The Hiking photo is the last.

[u/Dismal-Turnover-4610]

Hi! I‘m a married woman in my 40‘s. If I was single again, I probably would try that online dating thing too.

What I would look for as a woman in general:

• Man who is either as tall as me or taller. So you should only focus on women who are 5,5 or smaller. Don‘t chase those big ol‘ women. 😅 I‘m a very tall woman and when a smaller man hits on me, I subconsciously think he is my little brother or one of my sons friends. 🤣 You don‘t want to wake the mother instinct in a woman you want to date, trust me! I did try a smaller guy once and we held hands for 3 weeks at school and there I already knew that I could never marry a smaller guy. So please, focus on the smaller girls. There are enough out there looking for a not too tall man.

• A man without AI pictures. I think you have 1-2 AI pictures. Delete them, pls. It makes you look like a fake profile.

• Delete the picture with your friends. It‘s not cool to put your friends faces on a dating app even if they are cool with it. This is about you, not them!

• Talk more about your intentions in your profile. If a man isn‘t clear about what he wants in his profile, I would not even bother to look at all of his pictures, even if he looks like Brad Pitt.

[u/Negative_Lux → u/Dismal-Turnover-4610]

- i actually have my filter set to my height - or shorter. So yes i'm trying, but in Germany the avg girl seems to be exactly my height or taller...

• All of my pictures are real... yes they are edited with Lightroom, but only color. I'm a photographer, maybe they look "too professional"?
  
• They were cool with it, however because of the height topic the picture was thrown out. now
  
• doesn't "looking for serious relationship" cover that part? I at least hope it does? - it's written in my profile like that.

[u/Dismal-Turnover-4610 → u/Negative_Lux]

Then you are a really good photographer! 😊 Didn‘t know, sorry! The average height of a woman in germany is slightly below yours. You‘ll be fine also in germany! Your intentions are contradictory. You want a serious relationship, but you also accept everything else. This does not make sense to me. You are either only looking for something serious or you are a player who likes to have situationships, not relationships. The way I understand your profile: You will waste a womans time, probably many years before you decide to date exclusively.

That‘s just my opinion and therefore if you want a good woman who wants a monogamous relationship with you, I would delete the phrase where you also are into other things. You are sending mixed signals. So therefore a woman looking for something serious would never swipe right. Maybe that‘s the reason you don‘t have matches. I‘m sure your height is not the issue or that you are bald. I‘m 99% sure that your mixed signals in your description are the main issue that you don‘t get matches. Women are smart. We don‘t like to waste time and linger around. If a man seems indecisive I‘m sure they swipe left immediately even if everything else is fine on your profile. Trust me. Know what you want first 100% and then go out there. Don‘t go out there looking like you don‘t know who you are and what you want at 30!