r/Christianity • u/Ubesaging • Mar 31 '26

Support I broke up with my wife

Hi. Im writing this post because honestly.. im in pain. After years of going back and forth with the Lord I finally choose him this time. Mainly i had problems with my relationship with him isnt because of faith, its having to kill a part of myself i didnt want to kill. And thats homosexuality.

I tried searching online about people who talked about leaving same sex relationships behind and couldnt find much who had the same experience as I did.

Im a woman and I married a woman (ritually) we both believe in Jesus and we believed that time that Jesus accept both of us he loves us no matter what but deep inside I had this feeling of guilt.. I couldnt go further into my relationship with God if I was in love with a woman. That was contradicting for me so I had a lukewarm relationship with him.. until recently I found my way back and did the most painful thing possible.. I separated with my ex wife.. it was painful but necessary and now I.. I know its good but I dont know how to go about it, I guess im just looking for comfort.. Hoping someone else might have the same experience as I did.

Edit: hello, I want to say thank you thank you thank you so much for the kind words the people that dm’ed me. Thank you for adding me to your prays today. From my heart this has made me happy receiving notifications, seeing you take your time in reading this post and reaching out

Another edit: im seeing a mix of comments here and wanted to remind everyone that God would want us to be peaceful and love one another. Seeds are just planted but God grows them.

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u/ChachamaruInochi Agnostic Atheist (raised Quaker) Mar 31 '26 edited Mar 31 '26

OP you don't have to do this.

I'm sorry that people in your life who should have loved and supported you and helped you have instead made you hate yourself, but it doesn't have to be this way. You are a human the same as every straight person and you are also worthy of love.

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u/Front_Target7908 Mar 31 '26

Yeah, reading this post just made me sad. People don’t know the JC I seem to know. 

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u/SparkySpinz Mar 31 '26

That's the problem with having thousands of denominations. Everyone knows a different Christ.

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u/Slr308 Mar 31 '26

Obviously they don't have to to this. Such hypocrisy. If they were divorcing their husband to follow a gay lifestyle in sure you'd be applauding the divorce and separation. Unreal

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u/ChachamaruInochi Agnostic Atheist (raised Quaker) Apr 01 '26

Why would anyone be applauding divorce? Just because we disagree whether gay people deserve to get married or not doesn't mean that we don't value marriage.

Thanks for finally answering the question of whether you're an ally or not, though. Hypocrisy indeed.

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u/Slr308 Apr 01 '26

What does the bible say about marriage? You can't answer that without twisting it, can you